Oh no he didn’t!

Oh yes he did:

Obama To College Women: “You Can Be Stylish And Powerful”

President Obama gives advice on women advancing in the workplace in his commencement address at the women-only Barnard College in New York City.

Obama tells women not to get caught up with the obsession over beauty and fashion and instead be a role model and focus on leading.

Obama shared advice that Michelle Obama has taught women, “you can be stylish and powerful too.”

“Until there are women who tell her ignore our pop culture obsession over beauty and fashion and focus instead on studying and inventing and competing and leading, she’ll think those are the only things that girls are supposed to care about. Now, Michelle will say there’s nothing wrong with caring about that a little bit,” Obama said in his commencement speech.

“You can be stylish and powerful too,” Obama said.

There are no words.

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113 Responses to Oh no he didn’t!

  1. myiq2xu says:

    I’m surprised he didn’t pat the valedictorian on the ass.

  2. votermom says:

    tweeted this post with #QueerEye4theCoedGrad

  3. cj says:

    “Until there are women who tell her ignore our pop culture obsession over beauty and fashion and focus instead on studying and inventing and competing and leading …..”

    Ah, smacks forehead, what a concept! If only us women-folk had come up with something like that …. swoon.

    • DeniseVB says:

      Is this the same guy who hangs with the Hollywood beautiful people and calls Eva Longoria and Beyonce his BFF’s ? Nah, no obsession with beauty, youth and pop culture obsession there…..

  4. DeniseVB says:

  5. insanelysane says:

    This whole thing is devolving into a very bad sit-com.

  6. DeniseVB says:

    Good question: What’s the difference between a mistress’s hush money and a minister’s hush money ?


    Looks like Rev. Wright’s coming out from under the bus 😀

  7. cj says:

    OT but if anyone’s interested, Johnny Carson will be featured on American Masters tonight (PBS) The man was a class act, I’ll be watching.

  8. HELENK says:


    since the msm is already down on their knees to him, how low does he want them to go??

    • DeniseVB says:

      I saw some of the live twitter feed and graduation guests were complaining about the media platform obstructing the view. Bad, media, Bad. 😉

  9. yttik says:

    “Obama tells women not to get caught up with the obsession over beauty and fashion and instead be a role model and focus on leading.”

    Obama tells us all to emulate Sarah Palin?

  10. DeniseVB says:

    So, what are the chances OWS will show up ? I didn’t think so….nothing screams 1% like a fundraising gala at the Waldorf-Astoria in NYC.


  11. myiq2xu says:

      • Interesting. Regarding the gay marriage thing on that article: I support gay marriage, but I am miffed as hell that he would prioritize it before fair pay. Fuck that. In one instant, gay rights catapulted beyond women’s right, even though we started sooner and have been waiting longer. Sorry to the gays, but I hope you can understand why I think you should wait your turn.

        But of course, this is how the powers that be do it. They are always looking for the smallest slice of demographics to share the pie with. Happened when black men got prioritized over all women, when they were prioritized over black women, and now, this gay thing, which is absolutely a gay male thing, pushed largely by aggressive gay males.

        I’ll continue to support it verbally, but I ain’t helping any other group until MINE gets some love. End of story.

        • indigogrrl1 says:


          HALF of gays are women. Mostly feminist. And we have to deal with both rampant homophobia and sexism. And FWIW when I have never encountered woman on woman sexist hate from other gay women. So maybe some of your vitriol is misdirected.


        • I’ll match your horseshit call. Name one single famous lesbian activist. Not a lesbian with political views, but an actual activist. I could name 20 men, starting with Lt. Dan Choi. Until Rachel Maddow, lesbians didn’t even have a voice in the media, but I could name 20 gay male journalists who’ve been there for years. Gay males make more noise and get more attention that lesbians. That’s just the way it is.

          I’m not against lesbian or gay rights. I WOULD actively work to end homophobia and sexism, but marriage before fair pay? I’d like to see lesbians polled on that one. Would you rather be married or make more money?

        • Supposed to say *not a lesbian singer/artist with political views

        • And I myself have faced woman on woman from lesbians, so that is also utter horseshit.

        • indigogrrl1 says:

          Perhaps there are more gay males in the media because there are mire males in the media.

          And Fwiw – yes I would take more pay thank you. Because I have to pay extra for many things because I am not able to be legally married.

        • indigogrrl1 says:

          And Im trying to take the gay bashing thats going on right now with a grain of salt because there are many many of us that have knee jerk reactions to everything that jerk does but its getting old.

          Sexism and homophobia are two sides of the same coin. The LGBT community and feminists are natural allies.

        • I didn’t bash gays. I said fair pay for women should be prioritized before gay marriage. That’s not gay bashing. But you have to know this is part of what’s driving straight women’s frustration on this, and considering our comparative numbers, it’s worth heeding the warning.

        • indigogrrl1 says:

          I dont know many gay men in my circle that give a shit about gay marriage. They just don’t. But most of my female friends do… because we’re the ones with children. And we’re the ones that have more financial problems because we are women. So from my perspective – being legally married or civil unioned or whatever the hell gives us legal standing would be a huge economic boom in my household.

        • The gay men I know DO want to get married. Personal anecdote is not data. But I do hope you get marriage rights, I would just prefer to see fair pay for all be prioritized over a lot of stuff, not just gay marriage.

        • wmcb says:

          indigo, I don’t think Lola is disagreeing with anything that you are saying. At all. She’s just saying that her priority right now is women. Because she has seen, historically, that whenever women’s rights get melded with other (admittedly good) causes, somehow that other cause always ends up getting addressed, and women are put on hold again. Every fucking time women hook up with “natural allies”, feminism gets ignored, other than as a “natural ally” of all the other stuff.

          She’s not gay-bashing. Saying that MY cause is the most important to me, and I’m not going to let it take a backseat to any other cause (however worthy) is not bashing. No one is saying that gay marriage is not a worthy cause. She is saying that it is not the same thing as feminism, and every time feminism gets subordinated as being the same thing as any number of “parallel” causes, women lose out in the end.

        • indigogrrl1 says:

          And Im trying to make the point that half of the lgbt population ARE women and that the marriage issue is for us an economic one as well.

          FWIW – if I had to choose I would choose equal pay because I am a woman living with woman so its a winner for me. But I shouldnt have to choose.

        • I am sorry if you are getting attacked, but I’m not the one doing the attacking, ftr. I’m attacking Obama and his fucked up priorities, and the fucked up priorities of our culture.

          Maybe lesbians need to speak more often and louder and take the bullhorn from the guys. A lesbian face on gay rights would bring me back to being more sympathetic to the cause, and more willing to work for it. There’s a thought.

      • indigogrrl1 says:

        And fuck him and his personal opinion. Im telling you many of us are being harassed and attacked over this. SOB causes nothing but hate and division.

        • lorac says:

          meant to nest to the Lola thread….

          Not the whole answer, but part of the answer is that lesbians have been historically very involved in helping gay men with HIV/AIDS – that was their activism for many years. Being women, they were also trained (as were the straight women) to help everyone ELSE, solve everyone ELSE’S problems, before addressing their own.

          And personally, I don’t think the gay issue is being resolved before women’s. It’s just the expected bone toss because some rich gays made a stink. Obama pronouncing the same level of support as Dick Cheney did 8 years ago isn’t going to get anything done. It was purely political, got him a temporary infusion of cash.

          Are you aware that way back when, women and black men both wanted the vote, and said they would work together. Well, the black men got it, then did nothing for the women. Again, women working for someone else’s cause. It’s not a gay woman’s thing, it’s a woman thing.

        • DandyTiger says:

          How about both equal pay and marriage equality. And yes, fuck this asshole Obama. He’s about himself no matter who he destroys and what wars and divisions he leaves in his wake. Asswipe.

        • OldCoastie says:

          agreed… it’s not an either/or issue… how hard is it to check “all of the above”…

        • Because checking every box has gotten us soooo much progress. Exactly 1 penny an hour, if I recall correctly. So, no. WMCB is right. Women have been asked to hitch their wagon to every cause in the world, generally sacrificing their own progress and well being for it. I’m not doing that anymore. I’m 41 years old and about to face an empty nest. From now it’s all about me and what I need/want. Other people can work on what they need/want.

          And lorac, yes I did know about that and have written about it. I made a reference to it in one of my comments. I am well aware of how small groups of men have been used to exclude women for longer. I’m not about to repeat that history. If gays want my support, they can hitch to MY wagon.

          And to repeat: I support gay rights. Got no problem with them at all and have been a fag hag since I was 14 years and my own boyfriend came out to me, after which I supported him and we became best friends. Deciding I’m not going to lift a finger to help anymore does not make me an enemy of gays or lesbians.

        • That said, I’m pretty much done with this argument. No one is going to change their minds, and I wouldn’t want them to. I was just stating my personal opinion, and trying to offer an explanation for why straight women might say they support gay marriage rights in high numbers and then be bothered by this enough to let it effect their decision to vote for someone.

        • gxm17 says:

          I’m saddened to hear that, indigogrrl1. Obama’s “personal” stand for gay marriage was just theater. It only adds insult to injury that you have to take the backlash.

    • wmcb says:

      Saw that. Also, 70% in that poll think his gay marriage stance is political, not sincere.

    • leslie says:

      Has anybody here EVER been included in one of the polls that are touted every 3rd minute of election years?

    • Have you joined twitter?

  12. DeniseVB says:

    As a former soccer mom (you’re welcome Bill Clinton), this just pi**es me off. The State Dining room?


  13. votermom says:

    Can’t make this up

    NEWARK, N.J. (AP) — A Nigerian man used the identity of the victim in an unsolved murder to hide his status as an illegal immigrant while working undetected for two decades as a security guard and then a security supervisor at one of the United States’ busiest airports, authorities said Monday in announcing his arrest.

  14. votermom says:

    America’s Got Talent is on and Howard Stern is a judge.

  15. myiq2xu says:


    Currently, the White House is promoting #AskMichelle, where loyal Democrats can go to ask the First Lady a question. Only nearly all of the questions have come from conservatives. A sampling:

    When you vacation in Hawaii, can you see the rise of the oceans beginning to slow?
    What’s up this week for the @BarackObama campaign and “Operation Change the Subject” (to anything except the economy)?
    Do you still exchange May Day cards with Bill and Bernadette?
    Do you think your daughters should request affirmative actions preferences?
    Do you still get Christmas cards from the Rezkos and Blagojeviches?
    So who succeeded you at that critical, highly important $300k/year community outreach job at UC hospital?
    I have several friends who specialize in relocation. Shall I give them your number so they can help you relocate in January?

    • myiq2xu says:

      You have to listen to the audio – Hannity will gets copies of Wright interview tapes.

    • wmcb says:

      It all goes back to Chicago. Always. This is the same guy who was cozy with Michelle and got her her “job”, and the same hospital board crowd who are tight with Jarrett.

      If any media person had the desire and half a brain, they’d start digging into Obama’s past and his connections in Chicago – focusing on the the contracts and kickbacks there. Because the same names from Chicago keep cropping up in anything shady going down at the white house today.

      Dr. Whittaker, the guy trying to bribe Rev. Wright, has Rezko and Blago ties. From way back in 2008:

      Whitaker’s agency also got caught up in scandal. He oversaw the budget of the Illinois Health Facilities Planning Board, which approves medical construction projects. Rezko and his associates controlled that board, which they used to solicit kickbacks and payoffs, according to testimony at Rezko’s trial.

      Rezko was convicted. Whitaker, who said he wasn’t involved in the board’s day-to-day operations, was never accused of any wrongdoing.


  16. votermom says:

  17. wmcb says:

    Great. The Obama administration wants to put surveillance drones into use here in the US. Krauthammer, of all people, goes militantly against, and predicts some citizen will shoot the fucker down and become a folk hero.


  18. wmcb says:

    Oh, yeah, Obama has seen the internal polling. Look at his face today, as he returned to the WH from New York, and waved to reporters. I love it.


  19. myiq2xu says:

    From an online forum:

    Q: I am 16 and my penis is 5.5 inches long. Is that good for a woman?

    A: That’s amazing. I’ve never seen a woman with one that big.

  20. wmcb says:

    Romney’s little-known history of kindness and helping people:


  21. I…can’t…breathe…laughing…so…hard

  22. DandyTiger says:

    The Obama campaign has been pushing and pushing the student loan issue forever it seems. Clearly just a ploy to get gullible young people. But it doesn’t seem to have traction as far as I can tell.

    Here’s a related question though. First I understand school prices keep going up and it’s a racket, but why get outrageous loans for it? Can’t kids either take longer and work their way through school, or pick less expensive schools?

    • DandyTiger says:

      For the record, I went to an expensive school without assistance and without loans. It sucked working my way through, but I wasn’t in a particular hurry. Do kids have to have it now, and can’t wait some extra years? Just wondering.

      • jjmtacoma says:

        We all have state school degrees (clearly making us all unqualified for vice-prez) but I have known friends who thought private college was important for kids.

        I think community college (cheap first 2 years) followed by state school is fine. But I am not rich, so what do I know?

        Before the depression we aren’t having, it wasn’t like this. Kids getting expensive degrees could find reasonable jobs to pay off the loan. High unemployment with the under 30 demographic has hammered them and McDonald’s work won’t cover the loan payment.

        It was similar job situation in the middle to late 80’s, where college was needed for low paying receptionist jobs. There were news stories almost daily showing cab drivers with their college degree posted on the visor back then.

    • wmcb says:

      The problem with student loans is that it creates a skewed market. I understand that the intent was laudable. But when you give ANY industry (and yes, colleges are an industry) a guaranteed, no-questions-asked stream of govt money, what happens to prices?

      It then becomes a vicious cycle – the free money stream makes tuition increase, which necessitates more loans to get through school, which then makes prices go up even more, lather, rinse, repeat.

      I don’t have all the answers. But I do know that it’s pretty obvious that more and more govt money flowing into student loans and grants over the past 2 decades is a big factor in making tuition prices soar. I’m not sure how we get rid of it now, though. Prices would come down if the loans were made more difficult to get, but there would be a transition period that would suck ass for the students caught in it.

      • wmcb says:

        Some have suggested making the colleges themselves co-sign for the loans. Kind of meant as a tongue-in-cheek suggestion, but it might make them very careful about making sure kids do well, are steered to degrees that can make a living, and be very diligent about assisting with job placement upon graduation. Otherwise they get left holding part of the financial bag.

        😀 😀 😀

        • votermom says:

          I have an idea which I’m not sure would work. What if the govt put tuition ceilings on loans – they won’t give a student loan if the tuition rate exceeds a certain per unit cost?
          Kind of like minimum wage in reverse.

          What would be the possible loopholes & flaws?

        • yttik says:

          We need more apprenticeship programs and less focus on college. We need to stop equating a fancy education with a promise of wealth. We’ve told kids for so long, “get a good education, get a good job, get rich” but the reality on the ground doesn’t match the promise. Things have changed in this country, manufacturing has gone overseas, wages have declined compared to the cost of living, and getting an education is no longer a promise of getting out of poverty. I’d like to see more focus on starting small businesses, on innovation and manufacturing. That’s what has always made America and Americans prosper. A piece of paper from a fancy college is just that, nothing but a piece of paper. You have to put it to work, actually create something with it.

        • wmcb says:

          yttik, I agree. Something that the GOP got passed recently is a step in the right direction: It was a bill allowing small entrepreneurs an exemption from Securities Exchange fees/rules for their initial sale of stock. It allows them to seek investors in an initial offering without having to “go big” and hire attorneys, comply with tons of paperwork, etc.

          I’m not that knowledgeable about the details off the top of my head, but I think it gave them a “window” while they are getting off the ground to lure venture capital without having to jump through so many hoops. Once the stock reaches X number of shares, they then fall under the regular rules. So a little guy with a good idea can get his foot in the door, get some investors interested, and not be burdened with the compliance measures the big firms can afford, but he/she can’t. It’s an attempt to somewhat level the playing field.

          Cookie-cutter assembly line heavy manufacturing is likely gone for good. It’s new ideas and entrepreneurship that will save us, if anything can. Programs to encourage and unleash that are needed.

  23. foxyladi14 says:

    TRU DAT 🙂

  24. Barnard student says that Obama’s speech left her feeling “stereotyped, simplified, and used.”


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