Ann Romney is a valuable asset for the Romney campaign. Not only is she an inspirational wife and mother and apparently a talented speaker, but she’s also a woman who effortlessly draws errors from the Democrats. Last night, Juan Williams felt lukewarm about Ann’s performance and called her a “corporate wife” because her husband has always taken care of her.
To the extent he meant that someone wealthy enough to not have to worry about the price of gas isn’t the most believable person on the plight of the middle class, Williams isn’t way out of line. But after decades of being groomed by feminists not to dismiss women’s opinions, his comment smacks of dismissing the experiences of an entire group of women based on career choice. She hasn’t had to take care of herself financially so her opinion isn’t valuable.
One might think that feminists would come to Ann Romney’s defense, but they beat Williams to the attack months ago. Remember the Ann Romney “hasn’t worked a day in her life” comment from Hilary Rosen back in April? Both comments suggest that unless a woman works for money and accolades outside the home, then she has nothing of value to say.
Not only is the notion insulting, it’s also wrong.
Both career women and housewives offer valuable perspective, but for topics outside a particular area of expertise like law or accounting, a housewife, even a rich one, might know more than the career woman does.
Countless books, blogs, essays, and coffee chats have told us that professional women max out with juggling their career and motherhood. They don’t have time for anything else. They know a lot about modern parenting and are well-informed in their professional fields, whereas housewives of Ann Romney’s vintage and style have the time and the means to be hands-on at home and examine a broad spectrum of issues. In fact, that is the defense used by affluent, educated, feminist, freelance women writers. When they face criticism that they are too out of touch with ordinary women due to their affluence and the flexibility of a freelance life, they counter that they have the perspective, opportunity, and even duty to write about women’s life issues. The grand dame of the Second Wave, Betty Friedan, was just such a housewife who wrote about all women based upon her experience in affluent suburban New England. It is quite bold for feminists to argue that affluence should discount a woman’s opinion.
I have a confession to make. I don’t give a shit about feminism anymore. I am tired of watching women be their own worst enemies and then turn around and blame anything with a penis for their troubles.
I don’t give a rat’s fucking ass if women want to have a career or be stay-at-home moms. I’m not opposed to either option. If you can make your dreams come true then more power to you. If you have to settle for something less than perfect well then join the fucking club. It ain’t always what you want you get the most of.
But don’t act like one path is more righteous and holy than the other.
Most importantly, leave me the fuck out of it. It’s not my job to give you equality. I have an ethical responsibility to myself to treat everyone equally but I don’t owe you shit.
WOMEN ARE THE FUCKING MAJORITY. If you all got together you could win every election. So quit whining about how the evil penis-people are holding you back.
Don’t bother telling me that I don’t understand. I already know that I don’t, and I never will. Solve your own problems.
Let me know when you get your shit together. But don’t ask me to help you move it.