Daddy Issues?

“Mr. President, I’m gonna beat you like an ugly step-child.”


Roger Simon:

I doubt the president was over-confident, nor do I think he underestimated Romney.

I have quite a different explanation.

Barack Obama was afraid. In fact, on a certain level he was petrified.

Now I admit I have been making my living most of my life as a novelist and a screenwriter, so I may be no more than “creating characters” here, but consider this:

What we have before us in these debates is an almost archetypal confrontation – between a man who was and is an exceptionally good father and a man who was deserted by his.

Good fathering is the story of Mitt Romney’s life. He has five sons who are, by all accounts, devoted to him and vice-versa. These boys grew up with a father who, although wealthy and successful, worked like a demon, doted on them, and apparently devoted an extraordinary amount of time to charitable work, in which he also involved them. Indeed, I’ve never heard of a politician who did anything quite like it.

Almost the polar opposite, Barack Obama’s father abandoned him twice and then ended up an irresponsible drunken victim of multiple car crashes. This sad behavior precipitated a search by Obama that brought him in contact with several father surrogates, notably Frank Marshall Davis and Jeremiah Wright, that it would be hard to brand as anywhere near satisfactory. (Davis was a pornographer and about Wright the less said the better.) No Mitt Romneys there.

If you think this is lost on Barack Obama when he stands opposite Romney, then you think the president is stupid, which he is obviously not. But it’s worse for him yet, because he is standing opposite a father who has worked harder, has more experience, and is more knowledgeable and charitable than he and he, on some level at least, must know it.

Not only that, most of what Mitt Romney has done, including graduating simultaneously from Harvard Law and Harvard Business, is an open book, while almost everything about Obama remains purposefully hidden. (He knows this too, obviously.) Obama lives in fear of exposure – and thus in fear of Romney who, although rich, is much more the self-made man of the two, the ultimate father figure.

The face-to-face clash of these two men is almost out of Greek drama. Obama must rage against or embrace the man who represents what he most dearly needed and never had. If this really were Aeschylus or Sophocles, Obama would be caught between those conflicting goals and end up plucking his own eyes out.


I usually don’t go much for psychoanalysis and I never really understood the fascination that so many people (including Obama) have with his father. But that’s probably because I have so much in common with Barack’s childhood.

My parents divorced when I was a baby so I have no childhood memories of my father. My mom remarried for a few years so I had a step-dad for a while but I didn’t miss him when they split up. I was mostly raised by my mom and my grandma.

I knew I had a dad. He used to send me and my sister Christmas and birthday cards with letters inside but I never paid much attention to what he wrote. I never felt a longing for a father figure – I never really even thought about it. It was just the way it was.

That’s why I really don’t understand the daddy issue thing. It doesn’t resonate with me emotionally. But this article has a psycho-babble air of truthiness about it. It sounds plausible and kinda scientific.

My analysis is similar but simpler. Leaving the daddy issue stuff aside, I focus on who those two men are. Barack Obama is a poser. He’s a narcissist with an over-inflated ego but deep in his heart he knows he’s just a con man who is in over his head.

Barack is a wannabe, but Mitt’s the real deal.

Mitt succeeded in school. Then he was wildly successful in business. He succeeded in running the 2002 Winter Olympics. Now he is succeeding in politics. His family life is successful too.

Barack knows he is a failure as president. When he faces Mitt Romney he is overwhelmed by feelings of inadequacy. I am gonna predict that Obama will choke in the other two debates just as bad or worse than the first one.

It’s not about preparation. Obama is overmatched and he knows it. He’s been able to fake his way through life until now but it’s time for him to stand and deliver and he knows he cannot deliver.

Even worse, he’s not somebody who can handle losing. When he lost the primary to Bobby Rush in 2000 he was devastated and depressed. He knows he’s gonna lose on November 6th and it is eating him up inside. He’s a tin man with no heart.

I almost feel sorry for him.

(Just kidding)



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34 Responses to Daddy Issues?

  1. OMG, I LOVE that chainsaw graphic!

  2. DM says:

    Nah. Obama has a mommy issue. Obama transferred whatever problem he had with his mom, to his dad. I think Obama’s mom didn’t give him the attention he wanted, but instead of facing that fact, he figured it was his absent father that he missed. Obama had an absent mother.

    • DM says:

      One cannot miss what one has not had. One may want a beautiful mansion because one sees one, but one cannot miss a mansion one has never had.

      • myiq2xu says:

        What’s funny to me is the way people can go through similar experiences and take away totally different things from it.

        My second wife and I came from similar economic backgrounds – as kids we both got everything we needed but not everything we wanted.

        My attitude has always been to happy with what I got. Hers was (and probably still is) to miss what she never had.

        • votermom says:

          I have read that the difference for how kids cope with difficult childhoods is the presence or absence of at least one sympathetic adult witness.

        • DM says:

          There’s a difference between wanting and missing. You were not in want, but others are always in want and are never satisfied. You probably had what she didn’t have. What that was, I don’t know, but most likely you knew that no matter what the circumstances at home were, you were loved by one person. She may not have had that constant that most kids have. There are few of us who deep down knew nobody gave a shit about us, so replacing it with material stuff is the best we can do. It fills a void.

    • foxyladi14 says:

      Agree I don’t think he likes women specially white ones. 😯

    • myiq2xu says:

      I think the expiration date for mommy and daddy issues is your 21st birthday.

      • Underwhelmed says:

        Blaming everything on them is, I agree. But given that your childhood shapes you and indelibly marks you, I think you deal with the issues on some level for the rest of your life. But the grownups don’t use them as an excuse.

        • t says:

          I agree. For myself, I came out of my similar childhood issues “strong and tough” in my 20’s. I had my issues in my 40’s. I think even people who think they’ve gotten past the issues uh… haven’t. MyIQ is included in this statement.

        • myiq2xu says:

          Meh.

          I got over my childhood issues a long time ago.

          I have adult issues now.

      • 49erDweet says:

        It should be, but let’s give ’em 4 more just to be charitable. After that, no Sniveling!

  3. SYD says:

    I have to admit… as I was observing debate #1 there were times that I felt uneasy for Barack. He was acting like a child being scolded. And Mitt was able to give dole out corrections… one after another. As a father might do with a confused son.

    I was also raised without a father. And, having gotten through my fear of men’s “fierceness” it doesn’t “scare” me any more. But… I do remember a time when it did. There *could* be something to Mr. Simon’s assessment.

  4. DeniseVB says:

    Love my TCH family

    lhttp://bloghopenchangery.com/2012/10/07/wife-beater-republicans-obamas-second-term/y 😀

  5. carol haka says:

    The sympathy card is best played for the victims of his scams. He’s evil with no remorse for all the lives and livelihoods of the people he has played while rewarding his friends and donors. He has his for the rest of his life and he has never earned anything or built anything except a track record of corruption lies and monumental international grand theft! I’m a very optimistic person, and I know the sun will come out again once we are rid of this fuck! And I’m optimistic in the end when he steps before GOD to judge him, hell be told to take a 180 degree turn he’s at the wrong location! 👿

  6. HELENK says:

    I came for a different background than many..Mother died when I was 13 years old. Dad or other family members not interesting raising a kid.
    The main thing I learned was that you have to be strong enough to stand on your own two feet when there is no one there. I tried to teach my kids that. Everyone has strength inside them, they just need to find it.
    Whining and crying about what happened then, will not help you now.
    It happened , you can not change the past , but you can change the present and your future.
    Sounds very hard and cold, but painting a rose on on cow shit does not change it

    • myiq2xu says:

      I still remember the last time I cried over a boo-boo. I don’t remember exactly how old I was but I was old enough to be riding a bike without supervision (kids played outside without supervision in the 60’s). I had ridden a couple blocks from my grandma’s to a construction area. I guess it must have been a holiday or in the late afternoon because there were no workman around.

      I wrecked my bike. The bike wasn’t damaged, but I had a couple dents and scratches. Nothing serious, maybe a little blood and some bruising, but that’s all.

      I lay there halfway under my bike crying. Then I looked around and realized there were no grown-ups around to come kiss my boo-boos.

      So I stopped crying, picked myself up, got back on the bike and rode home. By the time I got there I forgot I was hurt.

      That wasn’t the last time I got a boo-boo, but it was the last time I cried over one.

  7. HELENK says:

    from what I have read backtrack has been carried and excused all of his life. Maybe grandmom who worked to support him felt that he needed her because of the failure of his parents. He seems to feel that because he got a bad deal in parents, everyone owes him.
    join the crowd buster, there are millions of kids that got bad deals on parents. They survived and became good people. No you have to excuse to be an entitled shithead

  8. elliesmom says:

    Mitt Romney reminds me a lot of my dad. While Dad never had much money, he was never stingy with his time. He knew how to issue gentle corrections when we tried to stray from the straight and narrow, and how to step it up if we didn’t get it the first time. While my mother loved him dearly, she never thought he was much fun. She always tried to steer me toward guys more like Obama, all flash and dash and the hell with substance because she thought I should have more fun in life than she did. She didn’t prevail, and the guy I married is like my dad, but with the money to do a lot of the things my dad could only wish he could have done for his family. While I don’t usually “go all in” for a Republican candidate, I think my positive daddy issues are part of what makes Mitt an attractive candidate for me.

    • myiq2xu says:

      If Obama was a really good dad he would have postponed his ambitions until his daughters were older. Instead he spent two years on the road campaigning for President.

  9. yttik says:

    Obama doesn’t just have daddy issues, he’s also got mommy issues. Both of his parents basically abandoned him. Then he’s got Grandma issues too, because she was a typical white woman. He’s got Grandpa issues also, because grandpa was a real dickwad who told his grandson that his grandma was a racist.

    For some relief from all these nutcases, Obama found himself a mentor in a communist who wrote bondage porn involving minors.

  10. swanspirit says:

    Just an odd thought or question actually. does Obama ever really make eye contact with anyone other than to give them an evil stare , or very briefly glance at them ; he makes more eye contact with a teleprompter, than people maybe it makes him uncomfortable and feel transparent.
    As for dysfunctional family issues , he has plenty .He barely passes the family structure criteria. In order to be considered to have come from a dysfunctional family , There are degrees of dysfunction ; from very mild ( which is almost everyone ) to severely dysfunctional . He is at the severely dysfunctional to chaotic family parameter, in which family structure is not always present , or apparent.
    Abandoned by both parents , adult child of an alcoholic ,and also a possibly hostile or unwelcoming environment with extended family . They may have provided for his physical needs without meeting any emotional ones . The adult child of an alcoholic usually brings serious control issues , if not drug alcohol or other addictive problems as well . And these issues usually come to the forefront in your forties and fifties . He may very well never have developed a personality , and be a narcissist who is a master of imitating how people behave , but have no inner core of self to identify with and feel secure .

  11. Rangoon78 says:

    Ann Romney tells CNN Chief Political Analyst Gloria Borger that “as soon as he gets on stage…he takes off his watch and puts it on the podium…then he writes ‘Dad’ on the piece of paper,” at which point she becomes emotional because the elder Romney was a strong influence in both her and husband’s lives.

    http://www.cnn.com/

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