There ain’t no such thing as “negligent infidelity”


Is sexting cheating? Overwhelming majority of men and women say YES – even if there’s no physical contact

Men and women believe that sexting is as harmful to a relationship as cheating, according to a new study looking at how people define infidelity.

In a YouGov poll of 1,000 U.S. adults commissioned by the Huffington Post, 85per cent of female respondents deemed the non-physical act dishonest, as did 74per cent of men.

Facebooking a former flame and forming a close bond with someone via text or email were also outed as adulterous acts.

However, the findings did reveal gender differences in cheating attitudes.

Seventy per cent of female respondents said they would consider it a betrayal of trust if their partner formed a ‘deep emotional connection’ with someone else over the internet, while only 50per cent of men agreed.

The majority of male participants also didn’t count kissing as adultery.

There ain’t no such thing as “negligent infidelity”. There is not one married man in all of human history who went out for a stroll and was minding his own business when he tripped and fell dick first into a woman’s vagina.

Did. Not. Happen.

Everybody who ever cheated on a spouse started off by doing something they knew they shouldn’t oughta be doing. Maybe they didn’t intend to take it that far but they willingly got too close to the edge before they fell off.

Of course it ain’t cheating if your spouse agrees but that’s a topic for a different post.

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23 Responses to There ain’t no such thing as “negligent infidelity”

  1. HELENK says:

    when a spouse cheats there is a betrayal of trust. A spouse is supposed to be your lover and your best friend and the one who stands by you through thick and thin. That may seem very old fashioned. Once the trust is broken,it is like a broken dish, you may glue it back together but there is always a crack. You may even stay together for various reasons but it is never the same. It is one of the saddest losses in a persons life

    • Jadzia says:

      Hear, hear. You know what I am fucking tired of? EVERY goddamned time some politician can’t keep it in his pants — okay, not EVERY time, but every time it’s a liberal politician — all of a sudden we hear a chorus of, “We can’t know what goes on in his marriage! They probably have an arrangement!” Eliot Spitzer, John Edwards, Anthony Wanna-See-My-Weiner?, and on and on and on. Come on, folks, how many people REALLY have open marriages? Not very many. Dr. Wikipedia ( tells me it’s about 6%. Higher for politicians? Perhaps. But I would bet that it’s still not anywhere near the majority, at least not in the minds of those politicians’ wives.

      Sorry, so far away, so late a reply. This is a subject that gets me all riled up.

  2. 49erDweet says:

    …so you’re saying the “He/she made me do it” excuse won’t work, either? That’s downright racist! Or Islamophobic. Has to be one or the other.

  3. myiq2xu says:

    Speaking of cheating sleazeballs:

    Former Governor Eliot Spitzer was mobbed by an army of reporters as he made his first campaign appearance this afternoon, five years after resigning from office amid a prostitution scandal.

    Mr. Spitzer, carrying a clipboard with a single petitioning sheet, was swarmed by dozens of cameras in front of the Union Square subway station and then trailed through the green market as he attempted to gather petition signatures from voters. Also in the crushing crowd was at least one heckler, who shouted obscenities as Mr. Spitzer took questions for more than an hour, sweat dripping down his face.

    “Eliot! Why were you late? Were you with a hooker?” the heckler bellowed shortly after Mr. Spitzer arrived, dressed in a navy pinstripe suit and matching blue striped tie, despite the stifling heat. “Did you leave your black socks on?”

  4. 49erDweet says:

    OT but so what? Here’s a newly deceased Cleveland Browns season ticket holder whose final wish is for six Browns to serve as pallbearers at his funeral in order for his favorite team to” let him down one last time”.

  5. Lulu says:

    This seems like the worst of both worlds to me. The sexting-er is not getting any and loosing the trust and respect of the spouse at the same time. In the world of logic and cost/benefit it seems a big risk for little return if you know what I mean. I know I come from another generation but I remember when men wanted to do it and not just look (strip clubs and titty bars) or talk (phone sex and texting). Looking and talking used to lead up to the real thing and this seems kind of sad.

    • Jadzia says:

      I suspect many sexters are the brand of cheater who is not in it primarily for the sex, but rather, sext as a passive-aggressive way to get out of the relationship by making the other party dump him or her.

  6. DandyTiger says:

    Is it cheating if you’re sexting with yourself? Asking for friend.

  7. DeniseVB says:

    Not exactly “infidelity”, but definitely “negligent”.

    I’m surprised N.O.W., Code Pink, Amy Siskind, et al, don’t pressure Obama to stop supporting these animals. No, they target creepy old white Republicans instead with their dancing vaginas (which I hear are now armed? heh).

    This is why I won’t support any organized group for women, unless they’re for ALL women.

  8. DeniseVB says:

    OK, more stuff you won’t read in the U.S. media. Glad the NAACP is speaking up….

    Hope this slips to the jury. People are profiting off the “outrage”.

    • myiq2xu says:

      If all she does is trademark his name I agree with her. That what she can legally prevent other people from cashing in on her son’s death.

      If she comes out with a line of hoodies or something like that I’ll be disgusted.

      • Mary says:

        They’ve already established a Foundation in his name, for which Mom, Dad, and brother will work for very high salaries promoting the “values” (their word) of the Foundation.

        The trademarking was the first step in organizing the Foundation, the article said.

        • Mary says:

          And yes, you can read that post as if my voice was full of sarcasm. (Facts are correct–Foundation exists–I think the “donations” are tax free). Family has already traveled overseas (London, etc) to solicit donations to the “cause.”

  9. fif says:

    It depends on what the definition of “is” is…right Big Dawg?

  10. myiq2xu says:

    Except the VRA is still good law. What SCOTUS struck down was the provision that certain states had to get pre-approval from the Justice dept. to make even the smallest changes in anything to do with voting in those states, including moving a voting station.

    • DandyTiger says:

      And the SCOTUS made it clear that they’d be fine with adding pre-approval requirements back in for districts where they could prove voter discrimination. IOW, put up or shut up. Sadly there may very well be areas where they can indeed show proof. But it requires someone do some, what’s that old fashion thing called again, oh yeah, work.

  11. yttik says:

    I’d sext my hubby, but he’s so tech inept, I’m pretty sure he’d accidentally forward it in a email to all his customers.

    At least I think it would be an accident. Knowing him, it’s hard to tell 🙂

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