Sunday Sex Blogging

College Women Reveal Why They’re Skipping Relationships in Favor of a Hookup Lifestyle

The skyrocketing hook-up culture, particularly at U.S. colleges, is not a new thing. The anecdotes are plentiful…and plenty lurid.

And the idea that the “game” has been driven by men is also a long-known element.

What’s newly emerging is the rise of young women on the prowl for casual, uncommitted sex.

The author of a compelling New York Times article, “Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game, Too,” interviewed more than 60 female college students at the University of Pennsylvania—ambitious, results-oriented, academically busy—who’re also committed to remaining relationally unattached for the foreseeable future.

Indeed, one of them notes, they see a big payback from the “low risk and low investment costs” of hooking up.

Every generation thinks they invented sex. I was too young for the “free love” 60’s but I lost my virginity in 1977 and for the next few decades sex was my favorite past time. Quite a bit of it was of the casual variety.

There is nothing intrinsically wrong with “hooking up” as long as you are careful and responsible. But it’s not everything it’s advertised to be either.

Human nature has not changed. All that “no strings” bullshit sounds really cool but it never really works out quite that smoothly. People invariably start developing romantic feelings and jealousies start popping up. Hearts get broken. Accidents happen.

But you can’t tell young people that cuz you’re old and don’t understand how it is today.


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23 Responses to Sunday Sex Blogging

  1. 1539days says:

    It’s easier to hook up when you’re young because most young people are jerks you don’t want to get into a relationship with anyway.

  2. Constance says:

    More young women are going into the professions that make very good incomes, Doctor, Lawyer, Engineer, Business executive. They don’t need a man to provide financial support for them and that was the incentive many women had for seeking relationships in the past. Another incentive was it used to be that girls had to have a date to go to the prom and similar activities so a boyfriend was a status symbol, these days many of them are happier going to the proms with groups of girls. I think things are changing some because young women have better career options they aren’t financially motivated to seek relationships.

  3. helenk3 says:

    one thing young girls should remember what you do stays with you.
    I went to a retirement party and there was a lady there that had worked for years at the railroad. some of the guys were talking about what she did twenty five years before.
    things have not changed that much there will always be gossip

  4. Lulu says:

    There have always women who “hooked up” for casual sex. Young, older, married, single whatever. The difference now is they openly talk about it and admit it. I have friends who did in the 70’s and my mother had friends who did it in the 40’s and 50’s but it was not openly admitted. Who the hell do people think were hooking up with all the males in the past? Do people really think it was 40 women who slept with 14 million men? This is silly and they think they invented something daring and titillating. It is just the same but self absorbed young people think someone else is interested in their sex life which they really aren’t. I’m old school. Do whatever you want sex wise but deny it to your dying day.

    • 1539days says:

      My dad told me stories of girls getting pregnant in high school in the 1930s.

      • Lulu says:

        It is human nature. Why do these young people think they invented human nature? I guess we are seeing rampant narcissism. During the 1950’s and 1960’s my mom had a friend who looked a lot like Elizabeth Taylor (my mom looked a lot like Maureen O’Hara). This friend slept with two of her husbands brothers and it was a big secret to say the least. After her husband died she found out that HE had slept with about 10 of HER first cousins. They found it hilarious. And these were nice, intelligent, wise, kind ladies who did not spread their private “business” around. This is human nature and biology and nothing new.

  5. You slipped over the 2 million mark. Sunday. Somebody called that, though I forget who.

    As for the thread topic, I wish young women were smarter, but that’s a hopeless case. I was just as stoopid when I was younger. And honestly, at the end of the day, I don’t see why anybody should put off sexual gratification just because their opposite sex peers are gross idiots. What are hetero women supposed to do? Keep it in their pants until the infantiles grow up? No thanks. Might as well get real while getting some. If you can fuck them over in the process, more power to you.

    • DeniseVB says:

      Me, me, me ! I called it, should have started a pool 😉 When I saw this thread topic last night, thought I’d wake up to 3 million hits, heh.

      Sex and the City pretty much mainstreamed casual sex for the professional single woman. I remember how shocking that show was when it first came out when it ran after The Sopranos. All that bawdy, sexytime talk, like guys behave! Oh my! Today (it’s still repeating on the cables) it’s really pretty tame stuff, and I just want to slap the characters now for being so shallow.

      • votermom says:

        Wasn’t Sex & the CIty originally supposed to be about a gay group of friends, but the head honchos decided that was too risky?

  6. DandyTiger says:

    Sort of related, and in the you can’t make this shit up department, a guy sues Apple for his porn addiction:

    A tipster pointed us to a 50-page complaint filed in federal court last month seeking damages and injunctive relief against Apple for making devices that can display porn, or as the rest of us call it, the Internet. The complaint gracefully skips from pop psychology, to comparing porn to handguns, to appeals to the divine rule of the Almighty.

    • 1539days says:

      I hate to inform this doofus that high definition television and laptops with HDMI cables makes it possible to display life-sized porn from just about any digital source.

    • Internal Exile says:

      Oh come on, Lawsuit Dude! Don’t you know… 😈 (NSFW)

    • myiq2xu says:

      Every Zimmerman post at TDH has an identical comments section.

      • Lulu says:

        The narrative was set early by Crump’s professional narrative setter PR guy who then peddled it to the papers and networks. The PR guy had done the exact same thing on another Crump case and was successful in that one too so repeated it. I’m sure Beasley had it all documented last year. Doesn’t Mr Beasley sound like a happy camper in that article? Now the lawsuit against NBC is cued up, already filed and ready to go. I think NBC was picked to file against first because of the edited tape, fired employees, and broadcast host (Sharpton) who was in the thick of it ramping it all up. The crazy this weekend on the network just ticked up damages. Expect to see Hirschhorn (sp) the jury specialist at ALL of the civil trials. I wonder if NBC will cut their losses and settle? I doubt it because they are stupid.

  7. DeniseVB says:

    Oh, Snap !

    • Internal Exile says:

      Yes, but starting with the “Southern Strategy” of the 1960s and 1970s, the two parties reversed their historic roles.

      In other words, “That was then, this is now.” 😛

      Indeed, the most remarkable story in recent USAmerican politics is the exchange of traditional constituencies between the two major parties in the latter half of the 20th Century.

      • votermom says:

        Did they actually reverse roles or was that just propaganda?
        What policies have Dems enacted for blacks that have actually helped blacks?

        • Internal Exile says:

          “Did they actually reverse roles or was that just propaganda?”

          I reckon that depends on whom you ask.

          To borrow the question attributed to an ancient Roman official of some notoriety, “What is truth?”.

  8. yttik says:

    “But you can’t tell young people that cuz you’re old and don’t understand how it is today…”

    Isn’t that the truth? If they would listen, I’d tell them that there is no such thing as “casual” and that “hooking up” is a form of a relationship. Like it or not, relationships stay with you.

    Recently I helped a 95 yr old guy pack. He was a real lady’s man and had lots and lots of mementos, not porn exactly, but pretty racy photos and letters from the 40’s. He remembered every single woman, knew their story, missed them all. LOL, he said the only time it doesn’t mean anything is when you aren’t doing it right and he assured me he always did it right 🙂

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