Don’t Talk About Sex


Mike Huckabee stepped into a pile of shit this week:

Huckabee was speaking at the Republican National Committee’s winter meeting Thursday when he remarked: “If the Democrats want to insult women by making them believe that they are helpless without Uncle Sugar coming in and providing for them a prescription each month for birth control because they cannot control their libido or their reproductive system without the help of the government, then so be it.”

But a number of reporters seemingly misquoted Huckabee. NBC’s Kasie Hunt, for instance, tweeting: “Huckabee: Women ‘helpless without Uncle Sugar coming in and providing them … birth control because they cannot control their libido.’” Though Hunt later clarified her tweet, Huckabee still made unflattering headlines at outlets like MSNBC and the Huffington Post.

Did you understand what Huckabee was saying? I’m no fan of the former governor, but I had no problem understanding him. It’s almost a run-on sentence with a really long subordinate clause, but it should be decipherable to anyone literate in English. He was not being sexist or denigrating women when he said it.

Nonetheless, it was a mistake for him to utter those words.

If they want to win elections, Republican men should never talk about sex, especially in public. That mean no sex talk, no discussing lady-parts, rape, pregnancy, abortion, birth control, STDs, sodomy, gay sex, anuses, penises, sex toys, age of consent, infidelity, prostitution, cooters, sluts, skanks, ho’s or hootchies.

Nada planada.

Any of those topics is a minefield, and these days it’s a sure thing that somebody will be watching and recording every word. One slip of the tongue, or just one quote that can be twisted and taken out of context, and BAM! – it’s Todd Akin all over again.

Even worse, there are Democratic operatives out there who will be trying to get unsuspecting Republican men to stumble with loaded questions. Even Republican women should be wary.

If you gotta say something, stick to carefully written and rehearsed phrases like Bill Clinton’s “safe, legal and rare” formulation. NEVER SPEAK OFF-THE-CUFF!

That is my professional advice. I always used to tell clients “You have the right to remain silent – use it! What you don’t say can’t be used against you.”

I can practically guarantee that before November more than one Republican candidate in this country will ignore my advice and suffer the consequences. I’m not saying it’s right, I’m just saying that’s the way it is.

“It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.” – Mark Twain

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106 Responses to Don’t Talk About Sex

  1. The Klown says:

    Jonah Goldberg:

    Last June, when the mainstream media collectively swooned over Wendy Davis and her shoes, I was overcome with Fremdschämen. The only problem is that I didn’t know what Fremdschämen was back then.

    But now I do! It’s a floor wax and a dessert topping! No, that’s not right. It’s my new favorite German word. What is amazing, to me at least, is that I am only just now learning of this word, despite having a soft spot (right below my elbow) for fun foreign words (“I myself am overcome with Backpfeifengesicht right now”). Even more surprising is that we live in the Golden Age of Fremdschämen, so you’d think more people would be using it.

    So what does it mean? It means feeling embarrassed for someone else. But more than that, it means feeling embarrassed for someone else because that someone else doesn’t realize he should be embarrassed.

    Fremdschämen describes the almost-horror you feel when you notice that somebody is oblivious to how embarrassing they truly are,” writes Daniel Hawes in Psychology Today. “Fremdscham [the noun] occurs when someone who should feel embarrassed for themselves simply is not, and you start feeling embarrassment in their place.”

    If I would have read this earlier it would have been the topic of my post.

  2. The Klown says:


    Here is the full Huckabee quote:

    I think it’s time for Republicans to no longer accept listening to Democrats talk about a war on women. Because the fact is, the Republicans don’t have a war on women. They have a war FOR women. For them to be empowered; to be something other than victims of their gender. Women I know are outraged that Democrats think that women are nothing more than helpless and hopeless creatures whose only goal in life is to have a government provide for them birth control medication. Women I know are smart, educated, intelligent, capable of doing anything anyone else can do. Our party stands for the recognition of the equality of women and the capacity of women. That’s not a war ON them, it’s a war FOR them. And if the Democrats want to insult the women of America by making them believe that they are helpless without Uncle Sugar coming in and providing for them a prescription each month for birth control because they cannot control their libido or their reproductive system without the help of the government, then so be it, let’s take that discussion all across America because women are far more than Democrats have made them to be. And women across America have to stand up and say, Enough of that nonsense.

    • elliesmom says:

      This is a discussion I would like the women of my daughter’s and my niece’s generations to have. One is in her late 30’s and the other in her early 20’s. What does it mean for a woman to be empowered? I over hear them talking to each other at family events. I’d like the conversation to include more young women and for it to go public. If outlets like the Huffington Post gave room for the discussion unhindered and unfiltered, the right audience could be reached. My niece isn’t worried about who is going to pay for her birth control. She’s worried about finding a job when she graduates next year. She’s worried about finding someone who wants to join her in a committed relationship. She wants what her cousin has and is worried the time has past for that to be possible for her. My daughter listens to her cousin talk about what life is like for her and worries about her and about her own daughter and what the world will look like for her when’s she’s my niece’s age in 20 years. Both women identify with the Democratic Party, but they recognize the party doesn’t really do much for them. An honest conversation might not convince young women to vote Republican, but it might make it harder for the Democrats to get their vote.

    • votermom says:

  3. I disagree, for a couple of reasons.

    First and foremost is that it doesn’t matter what Republicans say or do, the progressive media is going to make hay out of it. If you need any more evidence of this, see the story about how the GOP changed the rules of their primary to exactly parallel the Democratic primary in 2008, and how the headline in Time today is that the change is all about the money.

    This is the result of the Journolisting of the media. I don’t think a lot people realized what a profound effect this dynamic has had. Now there is a such a clear relationship between media and the Democratic party, particularly the progressive wing of it, that they may as well be fucking on the table in a crowded room and charging admission.

    If the GOP just worries about how the Dem party and their fuck-buddy the media will react to what they say, they will eventually say nothing. And that is the point of the whole thing.

    The other issue is that there are a lot of people in the citizenry who happen to agree with a lot of conservative ideas, but get cowed by the constant harping on social issues that Democrats and progressive do on issues that have clearly changed since 1950. This is not Dr. Martin Luther King’s or Betty Friedan’s America anymore, but you would hardly know it judging by the discourse.

    Here’s an example of this dynamic in play. In my training for the social work job I took, we did scenarios in class (comprised of a decidedly progressive-bending group of individuals). In one scenarios a mother had issues that required CPS get involved that involved neglect. The mom was smoking pot, sleeping around (with 3 guys), and sending her kids to school dirty and unfed. In another scenario, also a neglect case, the woman and her boyfriend were constantly getting into fights that turned violent in front of the kids. CPS had intervened and offered services (free, btw) a number of times, to no avail.

    In the first scenario my cohorts opinion hinged on the fact that mom was sleeping around and we should get involved because, hey, does she even know anything about these guys she’s inviting into her kids home? In the second case, anyone who said the mom should do something about the situation or was in any way responsible for what her kids were witnessing was “victim-shaming.”

    The example goes to show that even progressives, when they’re educated, still can’t quite get comfortable with hook-up culture and the sexual appetites of the poor, especially. Nor should they. But they are still loathe to hold women accountable for their actions because they infantilize them.

    Huckabee is right that a lot of this is because Democrats have been engaged in paying off certain demographic constituencies with initiatives that don’t actually solve problems and keep these constituencies in their victimized state. Except that these constituencies and the people “protect” them and who support those initiatives can’t see it because of the rhetorical shields like the so-called “war on women.” They can’t put 2 and 2 together because of obvious obfuscation. And someone has to put the math on the paper for them to see. These groups are not stupid; they’re confused, and anything that can spark their questioning skills should increase in volume. That’s why Dems & progs are shouting so loudly. They’re trying desperately to drown out dissent.

    My 2 cents.

  4. votermom says:

    Just came across this tweet, which seems on topic

    • DeniseVB says:

      Shorter Rush: Conservatives think liberals are good people with bad ideas, liberals think conservatives are just bad.

      That certainly was my “former life” experience, that is, to loathe anyone with a (R). And I was married to one at the time, still am 😀

  5. votermom says:

    Off the topic of discussion, I wish to share that as a result of viewing Downton Abbey, Sleepy Hollow, and other quasi-historical programs, I am resolved to speaking without contractions.
    I further resolve to endeavor to favor older words over modern synonyms.
    Consider this a chapter in my continuing campaign to keep my progeny in a state of bemused exasperation whilst stealthily advancing their vocabulary.

    • elliesmom says:

      There was a study done a few years ago about how the size of one’s vocabulary directly correlates to one’s ability to become financially successful. When we know more words, we are better able to clarify our thoughts, which leads to the ability to do more abstract thinking. When we become more abstract in our thinking, we are able to imagine what success would look like in a given situation. When we can formulate what success would look like, we can follow through and make it happen. The best way to learn new words in to hear them used in conversation or to read them. Giving children vocabulary lists to learn only yields about a 10% result. Good luck!

      • votermom says:

        Thank you.
        I am embarrassed to admit that my offspring, despite being voracious readers, are dismal spellers. I once believed that spelling was a skill that one developed naturally by encountering words repeatedly in printed form – that was my personal experience, at least.
        But it appears that my older child, a Junior in High School, thinks boredom is spelled “boredem.”
        I wonder what I have missed in raising such spectacular mis-spellers.

        • DeniseVB says:

          “boredem” sounds like a good twitter handle 😉

          We have a whole new spelling and vocabulary in the Twitter and Texting generation. I think eventually no word will be longer than 3 words and touch typing will succumb to what I call “thumbing”. I was really sad to learn that cursive writing’s being phased out 😦 Little brains are going to develope so much differently now,

      • Somebody says:

        VM, Elliesmom is correct about that study. I want to say they recently tied the achievement gap to a deficit of something like 120 vocabulary words.

        There are so many tools to help build vocabulary and spelling skills, lots of free tools online and apps. They range from somewhat boring grill and drill to a variety of game formats, even has vocabulary building games. There are also board games like Scrabble, The Sesquipedalian, You’ve Been Sentenced, Funglish, etc. Family game night is a lot of fun and usually good quality time. If your kids like crossword puzzles those are very good at building both spelling and vocabulary skills.

        I’m sure you can find something your kids enjoy that will help them build their skills. If they enjoy it then it doesn’t seem like “learning” or “extra work”.

  6. votermom says:

  7. Anthony says:

    Sounds to me like the Dems and the MSM are running scared. This morning, MSNBC still harping on Chris Christie about the phony Bridgegate thing, but not a word about Mayor Bill “Sandinista” DiBlasio completely ignoring snow removal in ALL of Manhattan (I live here – it wasn’t just the Upper East Side. It was the entire borough). Not a single mention of the traffic gridlock, inability for people to get to work, etc. Silence.

    I’m not a Huckabee fan, but I understood completely what he said and why he said it. The Republicans should indeed stick to the script – the MSM will be spinning and twisting their remarks any way they can until the midterm elections and 2016 extravaganza.

    Makes me want to become a registered Republican…..

    • DeniseVB says:

      Pouncing on Republicans is all the Dems have left, they sure can’t defend Obama. What’s even sadder, Obama’s not even into his supporters either. Just useful tools in his grand scheme of policies running amok. Moderate Dems need to break away to save the party, maybe even the country before it’s too late.

  8. threewickets says:

    Think left activists own “libido” like right activists own “family values.” I haven’t seen Progs mobilize so quickly since the last time they attacked Sarah Palin. As far as they’re concerned, Huckabee has made himself a general in the Republican war on women. Pretty impressed so far with how the DNC has taken a giant flamethrower to any Hillary challenger from the Republican Party. And I still don’t think she’s running. 🙂

    • wmcb says:

      I would like to know when even mentioning self-control of one’s own libido became a horrible awful thing. I would like to know when we decided that fucking everything in sight is a marvelous thing for women, with fabulous outcomes, and to be heartily encouraged.

      Isn’t it funny how all this “empowering” promiscuity seems to be causing so much heartache, confusion, and damage among women, but works out just fine for predatory “pump em and dump em” men?

  9. votermom says:

  10. votermom says:

    • DeniseVB says:

      When you have the producer of Schindler’s List worried, I worry. That was a powerful graphic.

    • Somebody says:

      I don’t know that it’s some kind of persecution of D’Souza. The charges are pretty straight forward the way I understand them. He donated the maximum amount to a friend running for office. He wanted to donate more so he asked 3 or 4 (I’ve heard both) friends to donate the maximum and then he paid them back. That is the gist of the charges as I understand them.

      I assume one of his supposed friends ratted him out. Apparently he needs to find new friends. Since he was married and engaged at the same time why not donate in both those women’s names? Perhaps he did and the moral to this story is once again a woman scorned!!

      I don’t know why he went this route, if in fact he did, there were so many ways to accomplish what he was trying to accomplish legally.

      I’m sure the same law gets broken over and over again, but that doesn’t excuse anyone from breaking it. The only way I would see this as persecution would be IF none of his friends ratted him out and the government was basing their charges on NSA findings, spying on D’Souza then I’d agree it’s persecution……..However, once again why go this route at all??? There were so many options available that were legal?

  11. Somebody says:

    I understood completely what Huckabee was trying to say. The faux outrage about what he said was based on quotes taken out of context. Guess what? It will happen again to another republican because that’s what the media does.

    I agree with Lola the entire purpose is to completely shut repupblicans up, make it so they’re afraid to say anything at all.

  12. votermom says:

  13. votermom says:

    PSA from our Head Terrorist

  14. The Klown says:


  15. lyn says:

    For Caturday:

  16. helenk3 says:

    if only the world knew how really wonderful backtrack was, there would be no gridlock in DC

  17. helenk3 says:

    as a woman the last person I would want as a spokesperson would be sarah silverman

  18. 1539days says:

    I think the GOP would like to enforce the “don’t talk about sex” directive as well. Unfortunately, the Republicans are becoming bereft of ideas and want to rely on bitching about how bad Obama has made the country over the last 5 years.

    Obama really sucks, but 2012 proved that we can’t ride Obama’s incompetence to victory. The media echo chamber is primed to take anything from anyone who isn’t an Obama flunky and turn it into cannon fodder. What Republicans need to do is stop letting their guard down when the MSM is cordial.

    The Limbaugh thing above was a good point, but what Republicans need to stop turning stupid progs to their side and just get more people to vote. Obama’s campaign was 100% based on turnout at the end. They early voted anyone they could, then made sure they early voted, then harassed them to early vote. Then they drove to their house on election day and didn’t stop bugging them until they pushed the lever.

    Huckabee is part of what I call the new definition of RINO. That’s a Republican who thinks the media likes centrists and then gets blindsided when they find out the media doesn’t like any Republican. As antagonizing as someone like Ann Coulter is, she never backs down and you always know where she stands.

  19. The Klown says:

    Did you fart, deer?

    • Somebody says:

      Another Tsarnaev in the making??

      The article says he claimed to have purchased the bomb making materials on the internet…….where was the NSA? Busy reading granny’s email?

  20. helenk3 says:

    another store hit

    Arts and crafts store Michaels says federal law enforcement, outside forensics firm investigating possible data breach at its stores – @Reuters

  21. votermom says:

    I do not understand this family – why not give the baby a chance? If it dies anyway, at least they will not be the ones to have killed it. Is it the medical expense?

    • DeniseVB says:

      Last I heard the baby wasn’t developing normally at 22 weeks, no lower half ? Heartbreaking story.

      • leslie says:

        I thought I’d read the baby’s brain was filled with fluid. Absolutely heart breaking.
        As for Jill Stanek, she and I have words in the past. She is relentless in her position despite whatever the reality. Her kids better never cross her.

        • The Klown says:

          If that was my family the last thing I would want is the whole world watching us deal with a tragic situation.

        • votermom says:

          Isn’t it weird that the so-called defects are all over the place? Fluid in brain, no lower half …

          A judge ruled that the mom is “deceased” and should be taken of life support, which is pretty counter-factual. People without brain function can be kept on life support indefinitely, and time of death is when the body (heart), not the brain, stops functioning.

          At any rate, the hospital gets a lawyer, the family gets a lawyer – I wonder why the baby does not get a lawyer – any legal opinion here?

          Edit to add: in the first linked article, the mom of the brain-dead woman said the doctors told them the health of the baby cannot be determined until mid-February.
          But they just have to pull the plug right now.

    • The Klown says:

      That is NOT a website for deep thinkers:

      • DeniseVB says:

        After I posted, I went to their *About* page, sounds like hipster (based in Williamsburg, Brooklyn)fantasy fan fiction. Or something ? 😉 Obviously the one in my link didn’t like married women, SAHM’s, career mommies or Feminists who said those were viable choices for women.

    • DandyTIger says:

      So feminism is now slutism? Fine, whatever. But then take the extra step that non sluts are bad. Really?

    • elliesmom says:

      My daughter will turn 40 this year. She has kept in touch with several of her high school friends. One is still an aspiring screenwriter. She moved to LA with hopes of making it big in Hollywood. She has a couple of self-published books on Amazon, works as an administrative assistant in a cubicle farm by day, writes at night, and is a Lesbian who hasn’t had a long term relationship yet. Another one stayed close to home. She’s a technical writer at an engineering firm, has never married and has no kids. She is currently in a relationship that it’s in second year. The third was the “wunderkind” of the group. She’s never been married, isn’t interested in having kids or a long term relationship. She’s an adjunct English professor by day and a pink-haired, roller derby referee by night. My daughter and the last member of the group each married and became mothers. They both own their own small businesses. My daughter is a silversmith with her pieces in several jewelry stores and a couple of designs sold to larger companies. The other mom has her own dog grooming business. She grooms Ellie for me, and I need to book weeks in advance. I don’t know how you gauge success for these ladies. The two with kids wouldn’t have it any other way, and the three without seem fine with their choices, too. Isn’t that what feminism was supposed to do for women?

      • foxyladi14 says:

        Yes!!! EM Yes. 🙂

      • DeniseVB says:

        Exactly em, the writer of the “article” seemed to think it’s impossible to reach your goals/happiness as a mom/wifey. Early feminists were tougher, SAHM’s (as I was) were considered cop-outs. Flash forward, Modern Feminists told Sarah Palin to go home and take care of her kids.

        Love the story of your daughter’s friends, thanks for sharing 🙂

      • 49erDweet says:

        Most TCH’ers understand this, but there are no “perfect husbands”. They don’t exist in the wild, nor even for very long in captivity, either. But a strong woman goes the furthest in civilizing that type of critter into something useful and mostly worthwhile, (except during football season).
        Kudos to your daughter and her dog-groomer friend. They seem powerful and pretty much successful, and ready for the long haul. That the other ladies seem content reflects well on them, too. They probably get more sleep, too.

  22. The Klown says:

    If you need an emetic:

    • DeniseVB says:

      Sorry, I can’t watch Sarah Silverman. Used to be a fan but she’s become annoying. Maybe it’s the hypocrisy so many “entertainers” are infected with when they become “political” ?

  23. helenk3 says:

    they really can not be that stupid can they???

    he was a pervert child molester

  24. helenk3 says:

    they better get their act together.
    If the old guard would listen to the young republicans and the young republicans would learn from the mistakes of the old guard they would be a party to be reckoned with

  25. helenk3 says:

    I used to consider myself a liberal. freedom of choice, little government oversight, it was a left over from foster homes, when I swore when I was of age nobody would tell me what I could or could not do again. But it seems to me that today’s liberal is more totalitarian then what I consider liberal.
    maybe it is just me

    • westcoaster says:

      I have a feeling people that are afraid of risk or the unknown prefer the false comfort of non-choices. Fear has been drilled into everyone for so long…The definition of success is also so unlike what it used to be. If people would be OK with having children that paid their own college (assuming college would be made affordable again) and a small place to live in the inner city or out in the country away from everyone, they would regain power over their lives. At least until jobs are created and the economy improves. The government has to be a tool for society and not the other way round.

    • DeniseVB says:

      My turning point was the 2008 election and the Obots “you’re either with us or the hell with you” challenge. So I left. I’m a lot happier now, maybe it’s because no Republican ever made me that angry.

  26. votermom says:

    How much does a person’s wishes count after they die anyway?

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