Just Because I’m A Woman He Assumed I Have A Vagina!


Before there was Vox, there was Think Progress:

When Gender Stereotypes Become A Serious Hazard To Women’s Health

When Kathy tried to seek medical attention for abnormally heavy periods that were leaving her feeling so faint that she was unable to stand, four different medical professionals said it was all in her head. They concluded she was simply struggling with anxiety and perhaps even had a serious mental health disorder. She says her primary care doctor repeatedly told her, “All your symptoms are your imagination.”

It took nine months for Kathy to be diagnosed with potentially life-threatening uterine fibroids that required surgical intervention. And that was only after she took it upon herself to demand an ultrasound. She was suffering from anemia, not anxiety.

“I was left to my own ability to recognize what was happening and defend myself,” Kathy, who didn’t want to print her last name along with details about her sensitive medical information, told ThinkProgress. “I was being treated as a mental incompetent and as a mentally ill hypochondriac.” She added that she doesn’t believe she would have received the same type of treatment if she were a man.

I am absolutely 100% positive that if Kathy was a man who was having heavy periods those doctors would have reacted differently.

There is a bunch more of that crap. Here is another taste:

The issue extends beyond the female reproductive system. There’s a particularly well-documented gender gap in the treatment of pain. Even though women are more likely to suffer from chronic pain — fibromyalgia, for instance, almost exclusively affects women — they’re less likely than their male counterparts to receive appropriate treatment for it. Multiple studies have found that medical interventions to manage pain, ranging from knee surgeries to opioid prescriptions, are less likely to be recommended for female patients. The widely-cited study “The Girl Who Cried Pain” found that medical professionals are more likely to tell women that their symptoms are psychosomatic, a term defined as “a physical disorder that is caused by or notably influenced by emotional factors.”

This means that, just as Kathy experienced, many female patients are told that it’s just in their head. According to a National Pain Report survey conducted last year, a staggering 90 percent of women with chronic pain feel that the health care system discriminates against them. “There seems to be an ‘Oh she’s so neurotic’ attitude towards female chronic pain patients,” one survey respondent said.

This approach toward female patients fits into a long history of attributing women’s behavior to mental health disorders. In fact, the modern-day stereotype that women are dramatic, irrational, and crazy has its roots in a gendered approach to health.

Money quote:

Dusenbery said that, as a young woman, she’s “never been more aware of patriarchal authority” than when she’s trying to interact with the health care sector.

Oh, noes! The Patriarchy!

I am not a woman or a doctor, but I have been treated by some women doctors over the years. I have been treated by some good doctors (meaning I liked them) and I have been treated by some bad doctors (meaning I didn’t like them.) It never occurred to me that my gender had anything to do with it.

If you go to a doctor and complain of pain but the doctor can’t find anything wrong, what are they supposed to do? They order tests, but the tests don’t show anything wrong either. Should they go ahead and order surgery so they can open you up and look around? Or should they just prescribe a bunch of addictive pain meds?

I’m not saying that some women haven’t had a problem with getting proper diagnosis and treatment, I’m saying that we shouldn’t assume it is because of their gender. Some doctors are jerks. Even female OB/Gyn’s can be unsympathetic to female patients.

But in Prog World, everything has got to be an ism, like racism or sexism.

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96 Responses to Just Because I’m A Woman He Assumed I Have A Vagina!

  1. Dora says:

    Speaking of women, we might have another one entering the race. According to this article, Sarah is seriously considering running. That would be pretty exciting.

    Not for anything, but doesn’t Sarah look just stunning sitting atop that horse? So comfortable and so natural. Can you even imagine seeing . . . . . oh, never mind. 🙂

    New SarahPAC Mailer Strongly Suggests Sarah Palin Will Mount A 2016 Presidential Bid

    • piper says:

      At this time, I would prefer Sarah to run for the senate as she would be a voice of reason not just a go along with the crowd group as some senators are. She would probably expose the corruption and cronyism that exist in the Rep. party which needs a good cleaning out IMO.
      Hopefully this time around, the Republican candidates would focus on the positives not do the mudslinging giving more ammunition to the opposition, the Dem-rats to use in their presidential campaign.

      • HELENK3 says:

        sounds good to me. the old guard republicans need to go and new not so jaded and still interested in the people and the country need to replace them.

  2. votermom says:

    Kathy needs to fire her doctor. No blood test?

    One time I went to my H’s doctor for a flu type thing, coz my regular dr was out of town, and after he took care of that he said, btw, do you know you are anemic?
    I said yes, already taking iron etc, but I was pretty impressed. He based it on general signs (pallor specially underside of eyelids & gums, etc).
    I am gping to be ” racist” for a bit and say – I think partly because he was trained and practiced first in an poorer country, he had a lot more confidence in his diagnostic skills. I notice that American doctors tend to be very cautious, hmmm lets get you tested first- before saying what they think is the ailment.

  3. DeniseVB says:

    I think Think Progress is still bullsh*t after all these years. Kathy sounds intentionally made up to be stupid. First, heavy periods and feeling fainty would have called for a simple blood test for anemia right off the bat, even if there was no low blood pressure reading. I’m not a doctor either, just personal experience. I’ve had both boy and girl doctors too. My problem was solved by putting me back on birth control pills even though I had a tubal ligation after my #3 child. It solved the hormonal reason for the gushers. (TMI ?) Had that not worked, thyroid testing was mentioned. I’ve never had fibroids, but I hear they can be extremely painful (which I was not) so a scan was never mentioned.

    What I was hoping for was a complete removal of all my lady reproductive parts to stop periods altogether. I really ticked off the doctor even mentioning that option for myself and got lectured on how he would never do that to a healthy woman (with clear paps and no history of cancer in her family) just for the convenience. I never sought a second opinion.

    • votermom says:

      I think now they like to euther burn or freeze the inside of the uterus instead.

      • DeniseVB says:

        My story is over 30 years old, sailed through menopause without premarin, a hot flash or killing anyone. Whew, dodged the hot poker up the hoo-hah too😉

    • Somebody says:

      Well I have fibroids and have had for a couple of decades so I think I speak with some authority on the issue. Generally, unless the fibroids are symptomatic as apparently hers were, they do nothing for them. Also, again generally speaking unless the fibroids are causing extremely heavy bleeding they are ignored. Fibroids are generally benign and generally they shrink once a woman goes through menopause. Hence why unless they are causing extremely heavy bleeding they are ignored because you can run out the clock usually.

      Treatment wise, there are 3 main options if the fibroids are problematic. First they can give the woman hormones to induce menopause for a brief amount of time to shrink the fibroids. That used to be the go to treatment, but many doctors shy away from that now due to other issues hormones can cause.

      They can also do uterine artery embolization or a total hysterectomy. I wasn’t given any of the other options, which is typical in the south……hysterectomy rates are very high in the south and midwest. I didn’t want a hysterectomy so I was discharged by a number of doctors because I refused a hysterectomy, my fibroids were very problematic until menopause finally hit. In fact I was told by a little snitty female doctor at Mayo that I was never, ever to mention my female parts again, as far as they are concerned I have no female parts…….so what kind of ism or archy was that??

      There are a few other treatments that have come about recently such as ablation or MRI guided ultrasound, but very few places treat fibroids that way. Heck only a handful of places even have the ultrasound. I’m not aware of cryogenic freezing of fibroids here in the US. I know they’ve been doing that in other countries for a few years, but I haven’t heard of that happening here.

      I think her article is weak in many ways. I don’t think it mattered one bit whether her doctor was a male or a female, generally speaking she should have been getting an annual lab AND as VM pointed out there are visual symptoms of anemia so I’m wondering if her issues were all that bad or if the truth is being stretched for a story…..nah that would NEVER happen.

      There are good and bad doctors of every gender, race and nationality. Perhaps she should learn to speak up for herself and learn to find another doctor.

  4. leslie says:

    Although the experience of “Kathy” may be fiction, my earlier experiences (as well as 3 friends of mine) were more similar to “Kathy’s”. One of my friends was in jr year at college and was experiencing heavy bleeding, fever, chills, muscle pain, feeling faint. She went to the clinic and they told her to go back to classes – it was finals week – and take her exams. She nearly died. She ended up having one of her ovaries removed after the dorm staff found her lying in a pool of blood on the bathroom floor. (This was years ago – we are both retirement age)
    Another friend spent a week and a half in hospital after being misdiagnosed. She had endometriosis. She ended up with a hysterectomy at age 45. Another friend had to shop for a MD who would listen to her. She also had endometriosis…had a hysterectomy around the same age.

    My own experience was having a period that was heavy, and long lasting and the MD who saw me diagnosed fibroids that warranted a complete hysterectomy. I said,”No. Not after only 2 periods like this and only 15 years apart.” The MD (a female, btw) said, “What do you need your ovaries for, anyway? You don’t plan on having any more children, do you?” I cannot tell you how angry I was at having her speak like that to me. She didn’t know me – had never even met me before. I’d had good care in that practice until that day. In fact, her brother had been my OB and had delivered two of my children. I found another doctor/practice.
    Granted those examples occurred years ago. I hope those doctors are long gone and the newer doctors are more open to listening.

  5. Dora says:

    Bo Derek says that aging is not for sissies. And she is only 58. Just wait.🙂

    Bo Derek: Aging is not for sissies

  6. HELENK3 says:

    right now i am trying to find a pulmonary doctor in Orlando. Having a really hard time. When I call and ask for appointment all I am getting is we will call you back.

    • 49erDweet says:

      To get a really good pulmonologist we had to go to Denver, National Jewish Hospital, Dr. James Ellis. Fantastic. Out local pulmonologist agreed but we found him on our own.

      • HELENK3 says:

        When I was in California I had Dr Phillip Gold at Loma Linda Hospital. very good doctor.

    • DeniseVB says:

      Do you have a primary care physician who can refer you ? It’s been our experience that some specialists only take referrals or your family doctor can make the appointment for you.

  7. SHV says:

    “(a female, btw) said, “What do you need your ovaries for, anyway?”
    That was the routine, after 45 remove the ovaries to reduce risk of cancer. Now, new studies show better outcomes by keeping ovaries unless the woman has an increased ovarian cancer risk.

    • DandyTIger says:

      An endocrinologist friend of mine just laughs at MD’s who say anything about these things, knowing out very little we really know. Keep as much stuff as you possibly can because who knows what else these things do. Complicated chemistry can be fun.

      • leslie says:

        Like I said to the MD, “I plan to keep as much of what I came in with as I can.” So far, I’ve lost a spleen and a kidney. Well, I know where they went, I just don’t have ’em any more. I plan to keep as many of the rest of my organs as I can. 😉

  8. Myiq2xu says:

    I was half-asleep when I wrote this post. It never occurred to me that it would stimulate graphic discussions of Lady Parts. There is probably nothing in the world that grosses men out more than women talking about their hoohaws.

    Except maybe watching a live birth.

  9. Myiq2xu says:

    There is a god:

  10. Myiq2xu says:
    • DeniseVB says:

      Planes and Amtrak don’t have gender specific potties anymore and I know it’s not the ladies peeing on the walls😉

      • Myiq2xu says:

        Ladies don’t shit roses.

        • leslie says:

          And unless it’s an emergency, They probably don’t $h!t on Amtrak or Metra at all. I know I don’t use those toilets at al unless it is dire. I’ve seen the messes in there.

          • lyn says:

            Oh, noes! I’ll be on an Amtrak train for six hours each way later this month. That’s a long time to hold it. Maybe I’ll wear Depends, but I will check how long stops are along the way.

  11. Myiq2xu says:
    • Myiq2xu says:

      Apparently George Zimmerman, like herpes, is forever. He’ll never go away, he’ll just keep popping up from time to time.

    • Myiq2xu says:

      Latestest news:

      “I was coming back from lunch and a guy was screaming out his window, ‘Please call 911. Please call 911,” said witness Kenneth Cornell. “He’s like, ‘I shot George Zimmerman. Please call 911. I need someone to call.'”

      Cornell said the man identified himself as Matthew Apperson and told him he didn’t have a cellphone and that this was the third incident between him and Zimmerman.

      “He said this is the third incident. They’ve been going back and forth for the last three months,” said Cornell.

      Police towed Zimmerman’s truck, which appears to have a bullet hole in the passenger-side window, to the Lake Mary Police Department.
      A second vehicle believed to have been involved was later hauled away.

      “I was working in the back yard and I heard the shots, and I said, ‘That sounded like gunshots,'” said witness George Paschek. “I heard two (shots). I didn’t hear no crashes, cars hitting each other or anything like that.”

  12. Myiq2xu says:
  13. Myiq2xu says:

    This also explains why Jewish Socialists hate Israel.

    • 1539days says:

      Funny. Hitler used to talk about how Jews were greedy businessmen and how Germany should distribute wealth equally.

      Talk about the original German.

  14. HELENK3 says:


    Carly Fiorina buys hilary clinton net.

    so far she has bought. seth meyers and chuck todd websites.
    all three now direct you to vote Carly Fiorina.

    now there is a creative use of campaign money

  15. Myiq2xu says:

  16. Myiq2xu says:
  17. Myiq2xu says:

    I bet Helen knows a few of these.

    • Myiq2xu says:

      Imagine finding out your grandmother was a biscuit and your grandpa was a cellar smeller.

    • HELENK3 says:

      Hey, I am only 21 and look like Linda Darnell

      my mother in law was a flapper, and also my mom. and both were strong women

      • HELENK3 says:

        the 20s seem like they were a lot of fun. I love the clothes and the music. I admire the women who were some of the first true feminists.

  18. elliesmom says:

    For awhile Elliesdad and I shared the same female PCP. He’d go to the doctor and come out with a bunch of referrals for tests, and I’d walk out with take a couple of aspirin, and it will go away. But he moved on to a different doctor because he didn’t think she was sending him for enough tests. She referred me to a different doctor when the emergency room chewed her out for letting my headaches go when they were a sign of something that needed more than a couple of aspirin. I do believe men and women get treated differently by the medical profession, but I’m usually OK with the “less is better” approach for me. I know I have a higher pain threshold than ED has. He never would have survived childbirth without a general anesthetic, and that’s OK. A hangnail is an 8 on a scale of 10 for him.

  19. HELENK3 says:


    former federal employee allegedly tried to hack DOE nuclear secrets.

    WTH is going on in our government today?

  20. HELENK3 says:


    saw this on facebook a while ago. thought it should be shared

  21. Underwhelmed says:

    Klown, I hope you know how much I like and respect you because I’m going to say this now: for once, you are dead, flat out wrong. Women have for many many years (and still today, but hopefully less often) been patronised and dismissed when discussing their medical issues. Particularly when it comes to gyno matters, and particularly when the doctor is male. I recently had an encounter with a young male doctor who was lucky to survive the appointment. His condescending, patronising attitude was eye-popping – and it wasn’t a gyno thing! He spoke to me like I was a mentally challenged 3 yeard old and trust me, I’m not. As much as I have no time for most of the SJW carry on, sometimes they are right about the issues they soap box on. And the fact that I don’t like them very much doesn’t make them wrong. This is an issue, one that should be highlighted and fought about.

    • Myiq2xu says:

      How much you want to bet that doctor treats men the same way?

      • swanspirit says:

        Too many times, they don’t, treat men the same way. This is one of the reasons I always choose a female doctor, if at all possible. It is a real problem. Not with all docs of course, but too many.

      • Underwhelmed says:

        I can’t say either way. But even if he does, that doesn’t negate the fact that women have been – and still are – infantilised, misdiagnosed and mis-treated by medical professionals based solely on their gender. A lot of crap rains down on women because of their gender, when it comes to male/female interactions. You might not do it yourself, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. It’s happened to me, many times, and I am not a shrieking harpy feminist imagining microaggressions because some guy looked at me sideways. It’s a thing. It happens. And pointing out that it happens, and should be pointed out, is important.

  22. HELENK3 says:

    Tom Brady suspended for 4 games and the Patriots lose their 1st round pick

  23. DeniseVB says:

    Just dropping this off here, classic Robin Williams on Childbirth😀

  24. DeniseVB says:

    LOL !

  25. DeniseVB says:

    SNL got caught (I posted the vids yesterday, NYDN picked it up too, so I’m not crazy!?)


  26. driguana says:

    Been feeling a bit under the weather the last few days so haven felt like saying anything to anybody, anywhere, quite frankly….but I have to say how much I have enjoyed this blog and reading everyone’s comments!!! Stellar! I feel better already.

  27. Dora says:

    We probably won’t have to be concerned about male machines and female machines. Nevertheless, I find this idea a bit frightening.

    New machine could one day replace anesthesiologists


  28. HELENK3 says:


    and here is another one. msm jump on the racist whites picking on the saintly black guy. only later it turns out he ain’t no saint.

  29. HELENK3 says:

    More: Shares of AOL soaring more than 18%, moments after it was announced that Verizon would acquire the company – @CNBCnow
    Read more on cnbc.com
    Telecom giant Verizon to buy AOL for $4.4 billion in cash deal – @WSJ
    Read more on http://www.wsj.com

  30. Dora says:

    What a group of savages! I want to see some liberal try to explain this one away. Warning – it’s hard to watch.

    Baltimore Teens Beating Elderly Man Reveals True Source of City’s Problems

  31. Dora says:

    Liberal Lunacy, And Asshat Alert For May 12 2015

    I sure wish I had seen this latest example of liberal leftist lunacy before Mother’s Day. Did you buy your Mom, or the mother of your children, flowers for Mother’s Day ?


    • leslie says:

      I’m still laughing at the absurdity of it AND loving the last line:

      CLYDE. Saying tell someone you love them with a big, bright, beautiful bouquet. Not only will the recipient love it, you can piss off a moonbat. Win-win.

      I think I’ll go buy myself more flowers after work tonight. 😉

    • leslie says:

      The EHRs (electronic health records) have turned my PCP from a staunch obot into a person who rues the time(s) she voted for him. Too bad she didn’t listen to me in the first place. She has essentially stopped trying to meet the requirements so that she can look her patients in the eye instead of looking at her iPad while they are in the room together.

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