In our lifetimes we have seen homosexuality go from being considered a mental disorder to mainstream acceptance. In the process, some aspects of gay culture have been suppressed and/or sanitized. As our gay friend Mothy can tell you, it ain’t all fabulous. Lots of drugs and promiscuity – stuff you don’t see on Will and Grace or Modern Family. That is a major reason why the AIDS epidemic was so devastating to the gay community.
But we aren’t supposed to talk about that stuff. It’s not politically correct.
I’m not judging – there are aspects of heterosexuality that are nasty and raunchy too. Gay and straight kids begin to explore their sexuality at the same ages. In both worlds there are adults who prey on teens and young adults. The age of consent varies. Some activities are criminal. There is a gray area of activities that are technically legal but morally reprehensible.
Many of us find these topics to be icky and feel uncomfortable discussing them openly. Milogate has opened a window into the seamy side of gay culture. We should not allow the “ick factor” to cloud our judgment.
I don’t have any answers.