I get it – I’m a man and according to some Professional Feminists, I have no business writing about this. But guess what? I’m going to anyway.
More and more, I’m seeing women attacking other women for “not standing up for women’s issues!” My question: Who gets to determine what is and isn’t a “women’s issue”? Some women (like wannabe comedian Chelsea Handler) are serving major shade to another womann whose political ideology is out of step with her own point of view. How is that a “women’s issue”?
I remember the early days of Feminism – It was a byproduct of the Civil/Equal Rights movement, and had a lot of well deserved support. Speakers like Gloria Steinem gave a powerful voice to women’s rights, and everyone in the word listened. It wasn’t long before Big Business (the tobacco lobby was the first I can remember) decided to jump on the bandwagon and co-opt the message to sell their own product to an emerging demographic.
Now, partisan politics seems to have picked up where Big Tobacco left off, and even one of the most prominent Professional Feminists (as if…) is slamming other women because of the stunning loss her disastrous political campaign resulted in.
If I were a woman, I’d be really pissed. This once legitimate movement that promoted respecting women equally to any man has been reduced to the equivalent of street hooker who is there for the taking by anyone who has a buck to use her for their own pleasure, personal gain or public visibility.
I’ve heard a lot of first wave feminists justifiably complaining about what Feminism has become, and one by one they’re divorcing themselves from the movement. They’re still staying loyal to the tenets of the original movement, but have stated they’re appalled at what it has morphed into. I understand that frustration – I feel the same way about the LGBTQ(uixote) movement that has turned into a parody of the original. I mean, seriously – WTF?? Gender Fluidity? From the same group that bitches about global warming deniers for “not accepting science”?? Tell me again about the difference between XX and XY, and then with a straight face, talk to me about “self identification”. I dare you.
If enough of First Wave Feminists decided to get together and begin a Post-Feminist movement where people were judged by their abilities and respected for their character without injecting gender bias into every fucking breath, Feminism might reclaim its power. But if we continue along this road, where “Professional Feminists” like Handler and Clinton use it so disrespectfully, women will lose any chance of being taken seriously when they are discriminated against because of their gender. Instead, there will be groans of “O god, there goes that lunatic who can find misogyny in a tube of toothpaste”, (to quote one outspoken “feminist” in a private conversation we had a couple of years ago)
I expect to take a lot of flack for writing this. After all, I’m a man, and “what do the menfolk know about feminism!!” Truth is, we really want to support equality, but shy away when we see you eating your own for a reason as stupid as politics. Ditch the pussy hats, vagina costumes and tell Ashley Judd to go fuck herself. It will help you rise again and be heard be ALL people, not just those who choose to remain in an angry echo chamber.
So take your shots – have at it. I will take them all on the chin without flinching, but in the end, I will continue to support women who express themselves confidently, powerfully and legitimately – the same standard I apply to men. After all, this is about equality, isn’t it?