Flashback: Tiananmen Square

I remember watching the protest in Tiananmen Square from a motel room in Tahoe. I was there in Nevada to get married to my second wife. She’s the one I affectionately refer to as “The Dragon Lady.” She didn’t really breathe fire when she was angry, it just felt like it. The year was 1989.

The guy in the picture who is playing chicken with the tank has never been positively identified. That’s because the Chinese government ended the protests the old fashioned way – with brute force. Some say the man was brave. I say foolhardy. The tank could easily have crushed him by accident. Either way, he’s dead, Jim.

My marriage to the Dragon Lady lasted a little over a year. Our court file lists the date of separation as August 1990, but like many bad marriages, the pain and bloodletting continued on and off for a while afterward. It finally ended when she moved to Monterey.

Been a whole lot easier since the bitch left town
Been a whole lot happier without her face around
Nobody upstairs gonna stomp and shout
Nobody at the back door gonna throw my laundry out

The Dragon Lady was Caitlin’s mother. Caitlin was born on June 27, 1990, and died four days later Her death was the cherry on top of a failed relationship sundae. She died almost exactly halfway thru the worst year of my life.

I don’t talk about that period much because I have spent the past thirty years trying to forget about it. But two recent events have stirred up a few bad memories.

Last week, My Old Friend showed up. Thirty years ago he was my best friend and drinking buddy and he was a major part of my life. This past week we spent some time reminiscing about those days.

Then last night Mom decided to poke a scar and she triggered some memories so bad I had repressed them and my reaction surprised both of us. I’m not going to go into too much detail, but it involves both Mom and the Dragon Lady.

The Chinese ideograph for “trouble” is two women under one roof. When Caitlin died we were temporarily living with my Mom. They hated each other, and I was stuck in the middle between them.

Last night Mom began talking about my Grandma. 1990 was also the year my grandma lost her mind. Alzheimer’s struck hard and fast, and she went from living independently in January to living in a care home by December. My Grandma was gone but her body remained.

One minute Mom was talking about Grandma and then she shifted to talking about the Dragon Lady. Suddenly, bad memories began to bubble up in my head like bloated corpses rising to the surface of a swamp, bringing with them some unresolved issues. I tried repeatedly to get Mom to talk about something else but she just kept going until I snapped and yelled: “SHUT THE FUCK UP!”

That got her attention and surprised both of us.

They say that alcohol won’t solve your problems but if you drink enough of it you can drown your sorrows for a while. I drowned a lot of sorrows in 1990. I already had a drinking problem going in but after Caitlin died I was drinking myself unconscious every night. I kept drinking like that until I got arrested for DUI in March 1991. That’s when I quit drinking for 8 years.

Apparently, all that drinking had allowed me to bury a few bad memories. Last night, Mom dug them up. We often joke about snowflakes being “triggered” but last night I got to experience a genuine triggering. It wasn’t pleasant. It was kinda like lancing a boil in my brain and releasing a bunch of mental pus.

I hope this all makes sense to you because I gotta go explain it all to Mom. By the time I had calmed down last night she had gone to bed.


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179 Responses to Flashback: Tiananmen Square

  1. Myiq2xu™ says:

    The main reason that MOF and I drifted apart was because I quit drinking. I stopped, he didn’t. Drunks are not nearly as funny when you’re sober.

    • blowme0bama says:

      Nope, and they will inevitably, in an imperceptibly slow manner, destroy everything around them. It’s like they have a genuine demon inside playing the long game with them.

    • helenk3 says:

      MYIQ
      I am sorry you had such a bad time and sometimes the memories become just too much. From what you write, your kids turned out great and your grandchild who is having a problem now has good genes and will come out of the storm stronger than ever. As for mistakes I do not know any perfect people.Just think how boring they would be and hard to live with. You seem to be a lot stronger than you think you are. Think how you keep us all together. You will straighten things out with your mom, you are a good son and are there for her.

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  3. DandyTIger says:

    Wow, that’s some powerful bad shit memories. I would think your mom would understand, but good to tell her bringing up memories of the worst time in your life, esp. the loss of a baby, is not going to go smoothly. 🙂 Hard to know if keeping such things suppressed is better or worse than working through any hidden issues. Shrinks seem to think digging through shit is good for you, but have you noticed how crazy shrinks tend to be.

    • Constance says:

      I’m a “dig through it” type. I always need to dig through to try to figure out how I made such a stupid error of judgment, in the hopes I won’t do it again. But after years of mulling things over I am never able to see my error or if I do I can’t stop myself from making it again. So I totally support moving forward and suppressing the bad vibes.

      • Myiq2xu™ says:

        I don’t need to mull things over.. I always have plenty of people around that are happy to point out the error of my ways.

        • Constance says:

          I have those people but I never value their opinion and tune them out. I have to say that recently my daughter told me to pull my head out of my ass and it was hard but I listened to her and damn am I glad.

    • votermom says:

      I keep bad things buried deep.

    • Myiq2xu™ says:

      Mom wasn’t exactly blameless in regard to that period of time. My first ex (Baby Mama)) deserves a big chunk of blame too. One month after I quit my job in SJ and moved to Merced, she told me she was moving to Fresno with them.

      When I asked Mom for a loan so I could hire an attorney to stop BM from moving, she took my Ex’s side.

      When we got to court the judge told BM she could move anywhere she wanted, but if she moved away the kids would stay in Merced with me. She stayed.

    • jeffhas says:

      Shrinks ARE the CRaZiest people ever. That whole idea that (supposedly) they can process other peoples sh*t is just MORE BULLSH*T.

      I’m for putting sh*t in it’s own compartment, reach in every now and then ONLY if you must…. in the meantime wallpaper over everything so you can move on with your life… until the wallpaper rips and looks like sh*t, then rinse and repeat.

      Everyone makes mistakes, but if you are true to yourself as not being an evil person out to hurt or take advantage of other people and you’re trying to do the right things, you can never put yourself back in the original situation with all the same variables. So, no regrets. You meant to do the best, and you made the best decisions you could at the time. Some things are out of your control.

  4. blowme0bama says:

    Was going through the same thing at about that time, minus the baby, with my first Wife, an alkie with manic depression (I think that’s the same shit they call bi-polar nowadays). Deadly combination that a naïve 23 year old at time of marriage can’t appreciate. Second Wife was an alkie too, but didn’t actually realize it at the time. Drank herself to death.

    I guess I was just blessed with the lack of whatever gene it is that makes someone an alkie. In both the small scale of day to day functioning and the large scale of lifetime maturation and goals, I always knew when it was time to quit fucking up. I just assumed everyone else was that way too because I used to drink like a MF. Some people apparently just can’t and will chose ruin and death of sobriety.

    • blowme0bama says:

      “over sobriety”, not “of”

    • Constance says:

      I also can pick an alcoholic out of a crowded room. It’s bizarre. For variety I once dated a heroine addict for 2 years. I hate the sneaky deceptiveness or their personalities.

      • blowme0bama says:

        Addicts are the worst. They prey upon those they’re closest to because they know they can get away with it. That’s how they end up homeless once they’ve fucked over everyone around them one time too many. I can’t pick one out of a room, but I’ll say the most angry I’ve been with myself was falling for an addict’s bullshit multiple times because they seemed so genuine, only to fuck you over again.

        • Constance says:

          Oh I can pick out the addicts and alcoholics and I am immediately attracted to them. If they are male I think “he’s the most interesting man I’ve seen in months” if it’s a woman I think “she’s fun, I want to shop and go out for drinks with her”. If only I could think “that person is trouble, RUN”

  5. Mothy67 says:

    I think you have to remember you are also processing what your grandchild is going through. Cutters often say they are letting the pain out or trying to relieve abstract pain. Only normal that thinking of someone close to you would evoke your own stuff.

  6. helenk3 says:

    My kids think my late husband walked on water and I am the bitch from hell. If I here daddy this or daddy that one more time I will scream. So many things they do not know because I wanted them to have good memories of him. What I did not expect was the anger toward me. I worked almost every day of our marriage. dear hubby told me he was not going to change his life style and always contributed less than unemployment and I had 4 kids to feed and keep a roof over their head. A bar came first in his life. There were many times that I needed him and he was not there, When I transferred with my job, I left a 4 bedroom home with only 2 years left on the morgage . only bills were utility and my youngest was 27 years old. they were all out on their own. For years all I ever heard was how I left poor daddy. I paid his medical until the day he died. I had a small insurance policy for both of us. The insurance company sent a bill by mistake to him. He cancelled the policy on me and changed the beneficiary to my 2nd daughter. It was only enough for funeral expenses. nobody was going to get rich off of them. I did not hate him until then. Yes he was an alkie. My memories are of things like have to take my son to the doctor when he was about 8 months old and calling my husband to see if he could get me a ride home. He answer was no.I walked home with a sick baby and it was quite a distance. Having to beg him to go to my father’s funeral with me, because my grandmother wanted him to be a pall bearer.
    It kills me somethings not to just explode listening to my kids talk about how he was always there for them and I was not because I was always working. Who do they think kept them in food and clothes and a roof over their heads. But what good would it do now the tell them. Nothing would be gained from it.

    end of whine for today

    • helenk3 says:

      and yes he embarrassed my publicly flirting with other women and making me feel like a fool

    • lyn says:

      {{Hugs}} 😦

    • blowme0bama says:

      Know all about it. Kept alkie deceased Wife’s health insurance up even though the Order didn’t require it and in turn, she was going to make me the pay on death beneficiary of her half of my sizeable 401k I split with her. Guess who didn’t live up to her end of the bargain? Her 88 year old, rich off her ass Mother and been retired for 12 years 64 year old Brother got it.

    • Somebody says:

      I’m sorry Helen. I imagine your kids built false memories of dear old dad as a means to bury the pain. As much as you tried to shield them, they probably picked up on more than you think.

      I didn’t exactly grow up in the Cleaver house, but if you were to ask either of my sisters they would swear we did. My brother and I, not so much. My oldest sister went to therapy years ago and the psychiatrist decided she had repressed memories. He talked her into hypnosis, apparently all sorts of things came tumbling out. She called me up a couple of times to ask me if I remembered certain things that she had some memory recall of during hypnosis. Both times I did recall and I filled in a lot of blanks for her. She ended up quitting therapy because it was too painful and stressful. Like I said, ask her and she’ll tell you she grew up in the Cleaver house. I think there may be a little of that going on with your kids.

      I try my level best to live by the Serenity prayer, I’m not perfect but I try. In your heart you know the truth, you just have to accept that your kids for whatever reason refuse to acknowledge the truth.

      • helenk3 says:

        thank you.
        it just hurts sometimes. I did everything I knew how for them to have a good life. His threat to me was if we ever broke up he would leave the state before paying child support. I did not want my kids to have a broken home. My choice.
        Was I perfect? hell no. I have my own issues and hangups.
        It is over now and can not be changed, so I do my best to get on with my life. I still will do all I can for my kids, just like most mothers.
        .

        • Mothy67 says:

          Helen
          Grandchildren don’t show up in another state to surprise gmom with a lunch date if their parents hadn’t taught them to love/respect that person.

  7. Myiq2xu™ says:

    One thing I have learned is that 1 year of bad times will leave more indelible memories than 10 years of good times.

    • lyn says:

      That’s so true. Havre, MT, Jesuit priest Father McHugh had a good sermon about that in the ’80s. A girl came up to him and said, “Everyone loves you but some people.” His reaction was, “Who are those some people?!”

    • ginainmo says:

      My bad times mantra was “A little bit of pot will get you through times of no money better than a little bit of money will get you through times of no pot”.

      You are right, even a short period if emotional chaos leaves a mark time can only blur, not erase.

  8. Alessandro Machi says:

    Your mom probably has started having dementia. If you want to adapt to her, it involves adapting to her schedule and frame of mind. Dementia can be an amazing experience if one is ok with wanting to hear their loved one talk about and relive their own past. Learning about Mom’s childhood and teen years may prove more interesting than anything Hollywood churns out. If up have an empathetic side to you, embrace that and enjoy Mom’s ride. If you don’t enjoy it, she won’t and both of you will probably be miserable. Dementia allows the person to focus on one or two things at a time, and it is up to the people in their life that still love them to adapt to them, not the other way around. Mom talking is the miracle. Mom sitting silently, dead inside or dead to the world, is the real nightmare.

    • lyn says:

      ❤ I do that with my father. I listen and agree with him, even when he asks how the baby is. (I'm 61 and never had children.) I say my kitty babies are doing well. You go with the flow and take nothing personally. He's in another state, and I end the call when he hits the wall and stops talking.

      • Somebody says:

        Talking to my mom is like the movie groundhog day. She asks the same questions and tells me the same stories, rinse, repeat. Sometimes she’ll repeat something 6 times or more, like a record that skips and keeps replaying the same thing over and over.

        I’ve learned not to answer her questions in a way she isn’t expecting because that really throws her for a loop. If she asks how my daughter is doing in college for instance my answer has to be “fine”. If I say she’s on summer break or something, throws mom for a loop. She also gets really confused about my husband not being here so I just say he’s fine.

        Mom hasn’t talked about any of her younger years at all really. She mostly talks about her neighbors. She will, if you trigger her, talk endlessly about the minute details of her job. Worse if you trigger a memory of my father she replays their divorce which really upsets her, so I try like hell not to mention something that will trigger memories of my father. Although sometimes a trigger is out of our control, like when my SIL picked up my nephews on Christmas day at my brother’s……OMFG! She went after me at first verbally, but when I finally yelled back (I know, I shouldn’t have) she came at me physically with her cane. I dodged and she missed me. Apparently she has repressed something or other toward me because I’ve never divorced, she and my siblings all have. Cemented for me my gut instincts that I will NOT take care of her. Who knows how nasty she might get with me. I’ve paid my dues, took care of my grandmother, father, MIL and Aunt, as well as a child with cancer. Mom is on my siblings, it’s their turn!

        • lyn says:

          Good call. You don’t need that crap.

        • ginainmo says:

          Does this sound familiar?

          Mom: How is Erin?

          Me: She’s doing great, the pregnancy has been super easy so far.

          Mom: Oh, she’s pregnant? What does she want, a boy or a girl?

          Me: She is having a boy, Mom. They are thinking about namng him Drew.

          Mom: That’s nice. Does she want a boy or a girl?

          This will continue as long as I will respond. Heartbreaking, really. Dad died fr Alzheimers, which took everything. Mom’s dementia is different, she has no short term recall left at all. She is still healthy at 94, and fortunately her 91 year old roommate is of a little sounder mind, but I know I am living on borrowed time. My brother disappeared years ago, it is just me.

          I honestly feel like Mom has outlived her ability to enjoy her life. I really hope I won’t have to make it worse by finding a nursing home for her. 😦

          • Somebody says:

            Yes, that’s exactly how things go with my mom. Plus you can talk to her and then an hour later my phone rings……it’s her and she’s angry because she hasn’t heard from me in weeks. She really only remembers talking to my sister in CA and not even all the time, but usually she’ll recall her conversations with sis.

            She’s much more coherent early in the day. I don’t think she should be living alone, but it’s not my call. Her neighbor was sharp as a tack and was over at mom’s daily, they were best buds, but she passed away 2 months ago. Mom sometimes knows that and sometimes wonders why she hasn’t seen her. Mom’s other long time neighbors moved to senior communities recently, 3 in the past year moved. She has one next door neighbor that checks on her and is super nice, but she’s young and works full time. Everybody on the street is new, except one lady across the street and she has a lot of health issues herself.

  9. lyn says:

    I was 33 when I stopped feeling shame for being me. Why else would my father torment me with words and blows when I was a child if I wasn’t a bad person? Fuck that. That’s why I hate leftists and their white guilt garbage to make people hate themselves. Fuck that for life!

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  13. helenk3 says:

    TDS treatment

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  15. elliesmom says:

    There’s something I learned spending long hours at the Jimmy Fund Clinic at Dana Farber, first with my good friend and her little boy, and then years later with my own son. The past is the past. No matter what happened, we can’t go back and change it. The future isn’t promised to anyone. But today is a gift to be savored. It’s why we call it the “present”. It’s OK to bury the past and just move on. It’s OK to plan for a future you might not get to have. It’s not OK to squander today.

  16. Mothy67 says:

    I think when people go through tragedy or trauma individual or group therapy can help. Similar to when we were talking about family members who were vets and how they rarely spoke about except with other vets.

    • elliesmom says:

      When I was a parent going through a catastrophic illness with a child the first time, I found group therapy helpful. I was in my 20s, and my plate just felt too full to handle all by myself. When I found myself back there again 17 years later, I wanted to be as far away from other parents going through the same thing as I could get. I wanted to be near people who weren’t living through the same thing I was. I wanted to be around parents who were worried about prom night, not how the next chemo treatment was going to go.

      That being said, when my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer, and it moved to her brain, individual therapy was what got me through. She wasn’t herself, or maybe she was her true self. It’s hard to say. But there were some things between us we were able to resolve on her better days, and a therapist helped me let go of the rest. My mom wanted to be the mother of the prom queen, and instead she got the class valedictorian. It infuriated her that I didn’t try to change to please her. It helped when I gave her the first grandchild, but then I moved halfway across the country. If I loved her enough, I would have refused to go. She never lived more than a half-mile from her mother, and for most of her married life they lived in the same house. The last straw was the day she found out how much more money I had than she did because then money must have been the reason I “deserted” her. But in the end, I was there for her in my own way. Her at Mass General, and my son at Boston Children’s, and me spending a lot of time riding the subway. No regrets.

      • Somebody says:

        Wow, I can relate EM. My mom had a heart attack and had to have surgery a few weeks after my daughter was diagnosed with cancer. Many complications for mom, touch and go. Then she ended up back in hospital with c-diff and kidney failure. I went back and forth between 2 hospitals, tough times.

        Thankfully my mom survived. I couldn’t imagine the kind of stress you were under, I’m sure you look back and wonder how you kept your sanity.

  17. Mothy67 says:

    Bwahaha

  18. Island Girl says:

    Good stuff you guys, group hug.

  19. Myiq2xu™ says:

  20. Anthony says:

    God, I’m sorry you’re going through this. For us non-snowfakes, PTSD events are very real and quite devastating. You never know what’s going to awaken the pain, and its like dealing with the original wound all over again.

    In the mid nineties, my life was interrupted by a hideous illness. I was all alone, went through ghastly interferon treatments and eventually had to be resuscitated more than once. Years later, the sight of red tulips had me burst into tears and brought me to unbelievable depths of despair. While I lay dying on a gurney, someone was delivering a vase of red tulips to a patient and I realized I’d never be able to appreciate their simple beauty again. It was devastating. In the end, I survived and thought i was doing fine. Then, I saw the tulips and realized I never processed my own pain. Eventually, I bought a bunch and brought them home to enjoy. Now, they’re my secret weapon against sadness.

    Ultimately, the act of forgiving ourselves for being too (fill in the blank) in the first place to sustain the original wound is the beginning of our healing. Be kind to yourself, love yourself and deal with whatever you want to at your own pace.

    From the outpouring of support on this thread, you’re surrounded by people who love you, and we are all cheering you on. We love you, we’re here for you, and we have your back. Xoxo

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  23. Dora says:

    Oh my.

    ====

    Homeless People In Fremont Found Living In Makeshift Tree Houses

    FREMONT (CBS SF) — The occupants of five to six ramshackle tree houses built in a private industrial park near Stevenson Boulevard and I-880 in Fremont are facing eviction.

    https://sanfrancisco.cbslocal.com/2019/05/30/fremont-homeless-living-in-tree-houses/

  24. helenk3 says:

    I had to post this for a short break

    • Constance says:

      I love it when President Trump says these truths. Next he needs to say, exactly who in the US and state and local governments are getting rich off of the drug and human trafficking? Let’s smoke them out!

    • Island Girl says:

      LOVE!

  25. gumsnapper says:

    One way to deal with the past is to become a confessional poet like Plath, (Then again, she committed suicide at the age of 30.)

    • Constance says:

      If I committed suicide at age 30 just think of all the mistakes I wouldn’t have made! No it’s not worth it, not even close. We are tough, we can live with our mistakes and failings.

      • Myiq2xu™ says:

        I was involved in a rollover accident not long after I met MPEG. (She was not involved.)

        I was showing someone a pic of my wrecked car when he asked, “Whoa, man, how did you survive that mess?”

        That’s when it hit me. “I didn’t survive. I died and this is hell.”

        (Sometimes I throw some line out there as a joke and people look at me really strange because they don’t realize I’m joking.)

  26. Dora says:

    It’s going to be one hell of a trip. I’ll be glad when they are back home.

    =====

    Trump mayhem: Protesters vow to paralyse London during the President’s visit with marches, a rude robot and THAT blimp
    https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7092859/Protesters-vow-paralyse-London-President-Trumps-visit-marches-rude-robot.html

    • Somebody says:

      I’m not fond of this trip, security nightmare. Japan didn’t bother me, but Londonstan does. I will be glad when they are out of there!

    • taw46 says:

      I read a lot of the comments. The good thing is that the majority of the comments from the Brits are pro-Trump and against the protests from the insane left.

    • Myiq2xu™ says:

      This is the same crap they were saying the first time President Trump went to Britain. The protests fizzled and the giant inflatable Baby Trump looked like something you might see floating over the grand opening of a new muffler shop.

      • taw46 says:

        I agree. And that baby balloon was tied down in one place, you couldn’t even see it unless you were there. The only difference is he wasn’t in London for long, this time he will be for 2-3 days. I still don’t think it will be 250,000 protestors like they are saying, we shall see.

  27. Dora says:

    WATCH: Man-bun-sporting hippie rushes stage, rips mic away from Sen. Kamala Harris

    Liberal man steals platform from liberal woman to shout about his own ideas.

    https://www.theblaze.com/news/man-bun-stage-mic-kamala-harris

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  30. DeniseVB says:

    (((Group Hug))) Just catching up. WoW, what are the chances you know one of the shooting victims in a mass shooting? A boy from the old neighborhood my son grew up with in the elementary and middle school years. We lived a few houses from his parents, nice people, great kids. I honestly haven’t thought of them for over 20 years. Until they released the names of the victims, Christopher Rapp…..I got chills. Mike and Patty’s kid? Nah, everybody named their son Christopher in the 70’s, Rapp is not common, nor is it rare. They already had lost an adult son to cancer, it would be so unfair. Then the phone rang, another former neighbor confirmed it.

    These mass shootings are sad enough, I can’t explain what a gut punch it felt like to have such a rare connection to one. Surreal.

    As for the gun-grabbers, they can all go to hell. The Municipal Center is a gun-free zone and we know people who work there who have concealed carry permits, but not allowed to bring their guns into the building, must be locked in their car. There’s the real problem. Need more good guys with guns.

    • lyn says:

      That’s so sad. {{Denise}} ❤

    • taw46 says:

      Very sorry to hear that.

    • lateblum says:

      {{{hugs}}} Denise. All those poor families.

    • Somebody says:

      How sad, they’ve now lost 2 sons 😞 My thoughts and prayers for his family. Another example of cherishing each day, because none of us know what the future holds.

      (((Hugs))) Denise, I’m sure it is quite surreal.

    • votermom says:

      I’m so sorry, Denise

    • Mt.Laurel says:

      No words Denise. Hugs from all the cats to you and the family.

      I read the list with trepidation. It has been years since I lived there, but most of my coworkers were from the area and have extended family. Kids grow up and get married. Plus we often talked with city/county officials in Tidewater when reviewing health facilities and this was in the planning wing of the building. But so far no one has contacted me with a connection I might have missed. I did know one of the victims at the Tree of Life last year. Three of my former bosses attend(ed) that synagogue. It is very surreal when you see places and faces that you know so well.

  31. DeniseVB says:

    Meanwhile, today is Pray for President Trump Day. Here’s my contribution, and I’m not a religious person, but he does deserve it 😀

  32. DeniseVB says:

    I love watching this….

  33. Mothy67 says:

    • DeniseVB says:

      Wouldn’t Alyssa be the perfect “Casey Anthony” ? Yes, there’s a movie being made about her. They do have much in common too 😛

  34. lyn says:

    I hate getting old. My four front bottom teeth will be pulled because of bone loss. I’m having bone grafting done for a four-tooth bridge anchored by implants. I think the teeth are too small for individual implants, but I have to ask again. It will take six months for the bone to heal. I’ll use the temporary bridge when I’m out in public. I told the dentist that I do not want the 61-year-old meth head look.

    • lateblum says:

      Oh lyn…. I am so sorry. Is there anything you can do to improve your bone density ? It’s one of the questions I have for my upcoming MD appt. I’ve noticed some bone issues since I started taking that medication following the surgery last October.

      • lyn says:

        I take calcium and D3. I’ll be getting a full bone scan next year. I’ve had receding gum lines my whole life, but my gum tissue is healthy. I’m told I have great oral hygiene but bad genes. LOL. I noticed that my two center teeth were moving when I brushed them, and then I freaked out when they wiggled. It took only two days to get into the dentist. When I stopped by the periodontist after that visit, I was told the doctor could see me. The temporary bridge will be ordered this week.

        • lateblum says:

          ❤️ I’ll be thinking of you, for sure. ❤️

        • Somebody says:

          Magnesium is vitally important, without it your body can’t process calcium supplements. The vast majority of us are low on magnesium, usually comes from diet but do to modern farming practices we don’t get enough. Another component is vitamin K, specifically K2, again we don’t get enough but you have to be careful especially if you are on any blood thinners.

          My mom went into renal failure mostly due to all the stuff she was taking for osteoporosis. Turned out she wasn’t processing the calcium and it was over working her kidneys to get rid of it. Lots of tests, working with a nephrologist, but bottom line added magnesium and boom. Kidneys better, although the damage is done. Her bone density improved remarkably and her BP got better.

          As for your gums Lyn, go online and buy a product called Gengigel, it’s European. They have several products but it helps with receding gums, as does coconut oil pulling…….it’s an acquired thing, but reversed my gum pockets some of which were pretty bad, blew my dentist away.

    • votermom says:

      prayers for the teeth issues, lyn

    • Myiq2xu™ says:

      When I was 8 I was hit in the mouth with a baseball while running bases in Little League and one of my front teeth was broken in half. When I was 17 it was replaced with a crown. A few years ago it was getting really loose and the other front tooth was going bad so both teeth were pulled and replaced by a partial.

      A couple days ago I woke up to discover a hole in my face where another front tooth used to be. I don’t know what happened. It was just gone.

      So now I gotta get more work done. Without the partial, I look like an extra from Deliverance.

  35. taw46 says:

  36. taw46 says:

    “One of the components of a successful dignitary visit is how uncomplicated the trip is in terms of demands from the guest, and according to a UK official speaking to CNN, the requests for the Trump visit have been shockingly simple.
    “The US side have been exceptionally straightforward and easy to deal with on the planning for the trip,” the official said. “They basically accepted the program as we have set out. They haven’t asked for anything at all unexpected or any particular additions to the program.”
    Those who have worked with the first lady on past social events, from the White House residence staff to volunteers, have cited her kindness and professionalism, as well as her attention to detail.”

    • taw46 says:

      Surprisingly, this is a nice article from CNN.

    • DeniseVB says:

      The Trump family has been travelling the world for decades. Protocol is important and respected.

      Did I miss something Princess Sparkle said ? I just saw a slew of “Trump said she was nasty” tweets and posts. I’m just not in the mood to check them out.

      • taw46 says:

        What I like about that article is it talks in a normal way about different First Ladies meeting the Queen. And as pointed out in the part I quoted, the Trumps did NOT ask for anything special. They went along with what was planned by the U.K. That means Trump did not ask for a carriage ride or to speak to Parliament. The left likes saying he did ask and was turned down.

        As for Harry’s wife, a Sun reporter interviewed Trump and kept telling Trump all the mean things she said about him during the 2016 campaign. So Trump said, wow, I didn’ know she said that, I didn’t know she was nasty. Meaning nasty about him during the general election. So on Twitter, omg, he called Sparkle nasty!!! That’s why it will be awkward when he meets Harry, LOL.

        • taw46 says:

          The article has nice things to say about Melania.

        • DeniseVB says:

          Princess Sparkle was not even liked in her home country and I do follow the tabloids. I know Diana had trouble with the Queen for less offenses, but at least she was a virgin 😛

          I look forward to the Royal welcoming for our Trump family in the UK. We know more of them love us than hate us, but we’ll never know that in our media 😀

    • Myiq2xu™ says:

      Remember when Bo and Mooch met the queen? They behaved like a couple rubes. Bo gave her a DVD collection of his speeches.

      • Mothy67 says:

        DVDs that don’t play in Europe!

      • taw46 says:

        Mooch, towering over the Queen, put her arm around her like she was some cute little pensioner. And Bo started his speech at the banquet while the music was playing. The perfect pair.

  37. Mothy67 says:

    I got a free trial of Hulu. My fire stick plays random stuff after I watch something. L&O SVU from when it was good came on. stabler 2007. Such a different show. Arguing against FGM. How did the left become so hypnotized by muzzies? While they have committed so many atrocities since then?

  38. helenk3 says:

    is it my imagination or are there a lot more missing kids now? every day on facebook there are at least 5 posts about missing kids. Are cops using it as a tool to help find them more or are there more missing kids?

    • DeniseVB says:

      I think it’s the power of social media. I see a lot of them too, especially in my local police scanner group.

      • Myiq2xu™ says:

        Most missing kids are parental abductions or runaways. Stranger abductions are statistically rare.

        • DeniseVB says:

          Yeah, it’s why I ignored the VB shooting in it’s early stages as another domestic violence situation, happens too often in our area. I feed bad now I made light of it before it got personal.

        • Mothy67 says:

          I got two Amber alerts on my phone last week both were abductions by fathers.

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