Covid-19 Scare Hits Close to Home


As readers know, my husband and I are first responders in most crises. He is a nurse working in a hospital with active Covid-19 patients. I work for Child Protective Services. As you know, abuse and neglect of children never goes away, and is often heightened in a crisis, though we are never mentioned in said crisis. If I sound butt hurt about this, it’s because I am motherf*cking butt hurt about this. I’ve been sending my staff into people’s homes with what paltry supplies I could locate and buy myself and whatever they can cobble together on their own. And no one cares. NO ONE. I’m starting not to care because it hurts too much to. That’s my soapbox on that for the day.

My husband has access to the protective gear he needs, though by his reports it is stupidly and begrudgingly allocated by panicked hospital administrators who have little more idea of how to handle this than CPS does. This weekend he started coming down with symptoms of Covid-19. We hoped for the flu.

His hospital, like most hospitals now, screen all employees for fever when they arrive for work. He was sent home last night after presenting with a mild fever and answering yes to too many screening questions. His symptoms continue to worsen today, mainly mild shortness of breath, coughing, fever, chills, and body aches.

What happened in between him being sent home and now needs to be know far and wide. We have been discussing the saintliness of doctors and nurses, and yet we are not looking too close at how hospitals are handling this from a Human Resources point of view, and what they are doing to support their employees who do get sick.

He received a phone call this morning asking him all sorts of questions about his symptoms, and then the questions shifted. They wanted to know if he was staying at home when he was off. They wanted to know where he had been other than work. He told them he was only going to the grocery and gas station once a week, and to and from work and home.

Then they asked if he lived with anyone who might have been exposed. Because he feels strongly about full disclosures and informed consent, he told then that he lived with his wife, who works for CPS and is an essential state employee who must continue to work.

Then he got to ask questions. Would they test him and how did they want him to handle his time off so he could be paid. Answers: No, they won’t test him, and he can’t work for 7 days, and he has to use his own PTO. Understandably, he asked why.

“Well, you could’ve caught it anywhere!”

I could hear the emphasis through the phone, though it was not on speaker. Literally, that was the answer. They said this to a nurse working in a hospital on a floor with active Covid-19 patients. We were on our own for testing, and the hospital would not put him on the necessary leave, which they had been offering other employees previously.

We called their competitor hospital’s Covid-19 line right away. THEY want to test us. We’re in a line that could take up to 72 hours.

Meanwhile, I’ve started having symptoms. I have a fever, a massive headache, and I feel like shit. I’m about 2 days behind him on symptoms.

I just really can’t believe this is the answer. After all that Kumbaya shit from the left, and the $4 trillion and still more coming from the federal government, and a hospital that has exposed its employees to Covid-19 can just act like this? Really?

I feel like I have been walking around my whole life slack-jawed over how incredibly cruel and careless people can be with each other.

That’s our update. Also, the picture is one I took yesterday while practicing social distancing. I’m posting it for Helen. 🙂 How’s it going in your world?

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126 Responses to Covid-19 Scare Hits Close to Home

  1. votermom says:

    what city are you in ?

  2. Mothy67 says:

    Lola that sucks and seems to be very short sighted thinking. They need to keep up morale. This might go on for months and then start up again. You people are putting your lives on the line FFS.
    I pray it turns out to be the flu or a bad cold.
    You are in my thoughts.

  3. lateblum says:

    Geez, Lola! This pisses me off more than I can say. I know that doesn’t help you feel better, but you are definitely not alone in your shock and anger. Don’t forget what votermom said about vitamins, zinc and Tylenol. I’m glad you sought out another “opinion”. I’ll keep you both in my heart and prayers. Feel better.

  4. Woke Lola says:

    Oh, but over at CPS we got an 11 paragraph email about how grateful we are to serve the most vulnerable and they would be delivering “two big bottles of hand sanitizer per county” by the end of the week.

  5. Myiq2xu™ says:

    Well, that sucks. As I learned in the army, the grunts in the trenches get screwed 100% of the time.

    Too bad you aren’t useless celebrities or ex-royals.

  6. DeniseVB says:

    So sorry sweetie. Just rest, fluids (gatorade is the best) is just about all you can do. I’m pulling my hair out, daughter, who lives in Queens, NY, has been running a fever all week, says she’s fine, just feels like sh*t, no cough. It’s allergy season on the east coast now, you can run fevers with sinus infections or other crap worthy spring bugs. Still flu season too. Hoping for the best for all of youse guys ❤

    • Woke Lola says:

      Aww, sweetie. I’m sorry about your daughter. She’s young, right? Even if she has it, it might not get bad. I’m on the line at nearly 50 and he’s 46 (in 4 days, he’d never let me forget), so we’re hopeful.

  7. Woke Lola says:

  8. Ann says:

    I am so sorry, Lola. I hope neither of you has it. He should be paid and tested asap by the hospital (and so should you). What are they thinking!?

    My son and his fiancée were on self-quarantine when they came in from their trip to Spain and Portugal. She is a nurse at a local hospital. She did get paid for the two-weeks of self-quarantine and she did not have to use any of her time.

    • Woke Lola says:

      I’m so glad she got the support she needed from her employer. Maybe it’s just South Carolina. It’s just a little more…wild…than I expected. Wild as in untamed.

      • votermom says:

        check your unemployment office – some states will kick in some money for ppl required to quarantine

        • Constance says:

          In Washington you or someone in your house has to have a positive Covid-19 test, but you can’t get a test unless your half dead already so the “benefits” they offer are not real.

      • 1539days says:

        Your husband should put in his notice and tell them he’s going to NYC where he’ll get more money and now immune from COVID-19.*

        *Note: Advice should not be taken.

        • Woke Lola says:

          Actually, that’s not a bad idea if he does have it and fully recovers. Quit that hospital and put in for traveling nurse since he’ll be immune.

          • swanspirit says:

            Even though I am retired, I still get ads, and phone calls from traveling nurse agencies. They are now asking for crisis response nurses. And some of the positions are not for caring for Covid-19 patients, but for regular patients who are overflow, now , since the pandemic patients are front and center. And they are not even necessarily all for New York. 50 to 100 miles can be considered travelling.

            That being said, I hope neither of you have it, and Goddess forbid you do, you recover very quickly. 😷
            As for the hospital where your husband works, I wish I could say I was shocked, but I am not. It sounds very much like a very shortsighted administrative approach to CYA, which really sucks.
            They are stupidly trying to avoid responsibility, and liability. And putting the burden, on the nurse, which I have unfortunately, encountered before, myself. It’s one of the reasons there is a shortage of nurses in this country.

            Can you ask/ insist on the hydroquinone, Azithromycin, zinc, medication protocol if you may need it? It seems to be the most effective. Some doctors are even using it as a prophylactic measure, and it is working, for that as well.
            I am so sorry this is happening, and you and your husband are amazing, putting yourselves out there, like you are. You deserve the very best care!
            Sending you lots and lots of healing!

          • Woke Lola says:

            Everything hinges on his tests results, but yes, I plan to ask our PCP for the combination treatment. Thanks, Swannie.

  9. AniEm says:

    Is there an ombudsman (oops…person) at the hospital? Most of my family have been in helping occupations (nursing, teaching, firefighting, etc). It’s amazing how callous administration is in those occupations. They’re all in CYA mode and too often make things worse instead of better. Hoping for the best outcome for you and your husband.

    • Myiq2xu™ says:

      Most administrators are all about budgets, and the Wang Chung virus has got to be blowing first responders’ and hospital’s budgets all to hell. It’s a bean-counter’s nightmare.

      • AniEm says:

        I’m just incensed that things are still more about monetizing than about helping others through this ordeal, especially those on the front lines. It’s helpful that the President highlights various business leaders who are pitching in and that should set the tone for the new norm.

    • Woke Lola says:

      That’s a good idea, AniEm. He is testing in the morning, so we’ll see if that changes things first. Good news, though, the test is now $25, and same day results.

  10. Miranda says:

    The whole situation, from your husband’s condition and the hospital’s response to your own symptoms, is terrible. Prayers that it is resolved and you both get better soon.

  11. Mt.Laurel says:

    First, sorry to hear one of our TCHers has been affected so dramatically in such a personal way.

    I had to give myself some time to calm down because that type of cold clinical distancing from a health care provider,is always a punch in the stomach. The questions may be required/necessary but there is way to put a human spin and show some compassion and try to at least mitigate the natural fear and anxiety that crops into people’s heads when faced with such invasive interviews. Not to mention what appears to be a total lack of empathy from your husband’s own coworkers.

    They know darn well that the probability that your husband was exposed on the job is far higher than any stop at the grocery store.

    I found, even in the earliest days, that most employers had taken very few steps for their workers. We had better protocols that would put in place in our office space than many that actually had public facing jobs. But knowing you have to enter other people’s homes . . . there are no words for the lack of emergency preparedness of your agency and its hierarchy.

    I am glad hubby is getting tested. I think that it is very important, especially for anyone on the front lines, to be certain yea/nay.

    Take care. Honey with lemon in hot water or tea. Chicken soup. Yogurt.

  12. lyn says:

    Giving you and your husband a huge Crawdad Hole hug, Lola. I’m sorry you have to deal with this right now, but I hope hubby’s hospital feels the wrath of Lola when you feel better. ❤

  13. michelina says:

    lola honey,————- this is unforgiving the treatment you are receiving———NO JOB IS WORTH YOUR HEALTH OR LIFE———-this is something you should seriously consider making a change in the future————-especially HUBBY——–GOOD NURSES ARE NEEDED IN MUCH BETTER PLACES THAN WHERE HE IS———GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER SOON

  14. michelina says:

    I retired early because the job was going to KILL me or I was going to KILL someone———fuck them and get the hell away ASAP

    • Woke Lola says:

      That does look like it would apply. Thanks for the link. Believe me, I intend to speak to a lawyer once we know what we’re facing with diagnosis. If he has it, I will pursue every remedy available if they continue in this way. No doubt about it. Lola’s wrath indeed. Ha!

  15. Myiq2xu™ says:

    I SCORED!!!! (but not bigly)

    Savemart was out. Rite-Aid was out. But Raleys had generic TP and paper towels!

    Raleys is an upscale supermarket, So I got generics at brand-name prices, but Mom won’t have to use old newspapers anymore. Not this week anyway.

    Lots of people were wearing masks, but I think I was the only person wearing a ski mask.

  16. Mothy67 says:

    I think my allergies are ten times worse this year because of the lack of pollution. I never had really bad bouts when I lived in NY. I just walked to the store to get the things I really need. A box of wine , coffee, and a lighter. Ten minutes and I could feel the toxins. There were no cars. I wore a mask and gloves. Used a card, but it made me wonder about change again. Dr. Brix said it lives on metal longer. I never use cash anyhow, but something to consider. I would gladly round up and have it go into a pool for cashiers. The store has done an amazing job. Plexi glass, wipes, foam sanitizer, distance markings on the floor at registers. It’s a newer super type store (a full city block lenghth and depth) so the aisles are very wide. They moved most of the must have things near the front. Butter, eggs, bread milk. They had used the area for chilled beverages and ready to eat stuff. People were very polite. It reminded me of when I tried to learn to drive and you come to a 4 way stop sign. Everyone stood back and waited their turn. Civilized.
    Damn shame a grocery store gets it together better than hospital administrators. Penny wise pound poor. Lawsuits can cost a lot more than treating employees that are on the front line with the dignity they deserve. They should have set up employee hotlines and a complete outline of the steps to be taken weeks ago. Hospitals should always be prepared for an epidemic.

  17. elliesmom says:

    I hope it’s one of the rapid tests. Not knowing is worse than knowing. Hugs.

  18. Myiq2xu™ says:

    Lefties are butthurted by the My Pillow guy:

    Righties have non-TDS perspective:

  19. Mothy67 says:

    I have been wondering if states are offering emergency food stamps. I read my county got some sort of waiver where there will be at least 2 meals available for kids 18 and under. I don’t know if it’s pick-up or some sort of distance cafeteria thing. I live in a town where kids all walk. Many poor kids in othet areas near here ride public transportation to schools especially the high school city kids. What’s the point of a quarentine if they are riding the bus? Kids families that get free or reduced lunches don’t all qualify for “welfare”, but the data is inthe system. Pup gets CHIP because neither my mother nor I can put her on our insurance. There may be a premium for her parents, but the state goes after them if they do owe anything. I wasn’t even allowed to pay. Brat has insurance. In PA no parent has to worry about a kid and healthcare. Anyhow the forms still have to be completed every year. The state knows income, family size. Why not give vouchers equaling the free or reduced meals with a bump. They could just buy gift cards to grocery stores rather than run cafeterias. Families not on food stamps but living paycheck to paycheck are screwed right now. The stimulus check is three weeks away. Dinner is in an hour. I see very little from the mayor of the big little city near me or the governor. Why not sub this bizarre high school soup kitchen with a gift card and sample meal plans. Spaghetti with meat sauce can be a meal for 5 for about 6 dollars. I can or two of tuna, some onions, celery, macaroni, and mayo 9 bucks.

    • Woke Lola says:

      In my state they are looking into this actually. Right now lots of schools and community centers are banding together to provide drive thru pick ups of breakfast / lunch. They are suspending the rules for renewals on SNAP benefits (what we call food stamps now) and no one will go without their their previously approved allotment during the crisis for failure to comply with re-determination paperwork. We received over 30,000 new applications for SNAP last week, btw. That’s how many new apps we normally process in 3 months normally.

      • Myiq2xu™ says:

        They are doing the drive-thru school lunch thing here, but the lady in charge told me you gotta show proof you have a kid in that school.

        • Somebody says:

          My county is cooking at the schools, then loading it on the buses and driving their routes loaded with food like a food truck. No ID needed, no kids, nothing. Just show up at the bus stop at the designated time and you’ll get a hot meal. It starts tomorrow.

          I told hubby I’d take him out for breakfast tomorrow. He looked at me funny and said where in the hell are we going to go for breakfast all the restaurants are closed. 😂 Then I told him, he said he’s pass. I said well if you get hungry enough I bet you’ll be the 1st in line.

          I have no idea how well this is going to work, but it’s a neat idea. They said they had volunteers (hope they screen them). I presume they’re using school food, but they may have gotten donations from restaurants or from the local farms, those details weren’t disclosed.

  20. Myiq2xu™ says:

    They had strict rules with effectively zero oversight. So they ignored the rules.

    • lyn says:

      Tucker is lying.

      • lyn says:

        Saw a study that sick people should wear masks to protect healthy people. I support everyone one wearing a mask as long as the supply is there.

        • elliesmom says:

          The ladies sewing DIY masks have depleted the nation’s supply of 1/4″ elastic. I have a spool of it, and I feel like I have to hide it under my mattress. You can’t find it anywhere. Now they’re buying up all of the hair elastics. I gave 10 yds of elastic to a friend who is afraid to leave her house. I didn’t tell her I have more. It takes about 1/2 yd to make one so 20 masks should keep her busy.

  21. SHV says:

    NOLA and La is getting hammered. Yesterday 385 COVID pts on ventilators today 438.

    This AM, Al was on VA conference call with NOLA VA; general population 10% of pts admitted with COVID end up on vent., at the VA it’s 50%. As of now 110 out of 500 hospital staff are out with COVID or waiting test results.

  22. lyn says:

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  25. dm says:

    Lola, so sorry to hear about your problems and the entire lack of support from employers. My daughter was exposed by a co-worker, had to be tested, was out on admin leave (paid) until results came in – negative. But I figured it was just a matter of time. She said that the hospital is so desperate to place hand sanitizer in public places, they took the 1 dispenser out of the office she shares with her co-workers. She is a transport nurse and not directly exposed to general population of patients, but lots of surfaces to touch from the car to office. She said they fired someone last week for stealing supplies. She was offered 5,000/week to travel to New York – she was there last year when she was travelling. Having worked in a hospital for many years myself, I know between budget for supplies and SPACE, they generally keep minimal inventory…just what the average census dictates.

    I hope things start looking up real soon for you and your husband. If you need emergency supplies and no way to get them, let me know…my son is in Ladson and currently unemployed as he left his job site a couple of weeks ago (7,000 construction workers at 1 place)…his history of asthma didn’t feel right to be there. I’m sure I could sweet talk him into helping.

    • Woke Lola says:

      Awww, that’s sweet, DM. Glad your daughter tested negative, and glad to know we have a neighbor in Ladson! Please keep us posted on how he’s doing with his asthma. Perhaps we can help the other way if there is need, and we are healthy enough to.

  26. Anthony says:

    Why is this taskforce presser turning into the Jim Acosta show???

    • taw46 says:

      I was thinking the same thing.

    • mcnorman says:

      Gawd, the ass keeps repeating the same question using different words to “stump” POTUS. Only the back of the class fool would try this on national tv. Now more than ever he is obviously telling the public that he cannot understand how the statistics and charts work. He has toned down his aggressive tone a wee bit. A wee bit.

    • lyn says:

  27. Somebody says:

    Lola I am stunned and pissed off by the actions of your husband’s employer and the state of SC. Utterly stunned. Two whole bottles of hand sanitizer per county, WTF? Bogarting the PPE for frontline nurses at a hospital? Lawsuit😡

    On a personal note, I thank you both for your hard work and dedication. I will pray that you both test negative or if heaven forbid positive, you have a mild case and recover quickly. If there is anything any of us can do, please don’t hesitate to ask (((HUGS)))

  28. Angie says:

    That’s terrible and woukd be legal if he does test positive for COVID-19 under the terms of the FFRCA if he didn’t work for a hospital. Believe it or not, healthcare organizations have an exclusion and can deny their employees the paid emergency FMLA the Act otherwise requires.

    Always a fucking loophole.

    Good news is, CPS will probably provide the paid FMLA for you.

    I really do hope this isn’t COVID19 and that, even if it is, you all have minor issues & recover quickly.

    Hope this cheers you up –my pick is gas mask guy with the cape–he is probably armed.

  29. Myiq2xu™ says:

    • Woke Lola says:

      Yes, we saw that here. In the 10 days prior to this happening 2 of his 6 shifts he was assigned on call due to low census numbers. They are trying to keep beds open for when a peak hits, but honestly, we had 5 cases in Charleston 9 days ago and only 19 today. Our hotspots are around Greenville, Spartanburg, and Columbia.

  30. Angie says:

    Just as an FYI resource, especially if you are worried about your small business or job, a very respected CPA firm collated info & links about the FFCRA, the CARES Act, etc. that you may find helpful so I’m sharing.

    Anthony –unemployment benies ($600 a week fed supplement for up to 4 months) applies to gig workers and self-employed. That may apply to you.

    • Woke Lola says:

      That’s awesome. Thanks Angie!

    • Shez ZK says:

      Excellent, Angie. My daughter is self employed as an aesthetician and had to close her office in East Lansing. She did a bunch of research and found info like your link where she thinks she’s eligible now for benefits after all. I was going to call her in the morning to have her remind me what she had found out to see if that would help Anthony but you’ve already nailed it down. Our Michigan governor is as fucked up as his NY governor. Thank Goddess Trump is a brilliant businessman that is tackling these problems federally.

    • Anthony says:

      Thank you. Hopefully I won’t need to apply. Remote service ticking up here, fingers crossed it will continue

  31. DeniseVB says:

    This made me snork……

  32. Wilson says:

    You are not alone. God bless you both for what you do. You are the heroes.

    Many prayers.

  33. Shez ZK says:

    Love, prayers, and healing Light to Lola and your hubby. I’ve been wondering all day how you are both doing since it’s been a rare day I haven’t been online much. My kitty came down with a sudden bad fever this weekend for no apparent reason and she’s slowly recovering once it broke late Sunday night. I’ve been worried about all 3 of you. We’re all praying your tests come out negative.

  34. Mothy67 says:

    I bought a ton of kelogg s nutri grain bars. They are disgusting. Like if you had an evi step mother who combined gravel with a pop tart.

  35. Shez ZK says:

    For John Denney:
    Forget the flamethrower or boiling water for weeds in the cracks. Have your wife pour a little vinegar in a spray bottle and spray the weeds directly with it. You can dilute it with a little water and it’ll still work. Vinegar is toxic to plants and weeds (be careful it doesn’t seep into flower beds). They’ll turn brown and die off in about 3 days flat or so, and pull up easily. It’ll wash away with the next rain or with a hose so you may have to reapply but it works like magic, in less than a week.

    • John Denney says:

      That’s a good tip. I put vinegar in my plant water anyway, because out of the tap, our water is pH 8, too alkaline for plants, and the soil is already alkaline.

  36. Island Girl says:

    La la la Lola. Much Aloha your way in this crazy fn world.

  37. Woke Lola says:

    Hey y’all, I know there’s a new thread up, but I wanted to follow up and let you know that I am feeling better this morning. DH is still down, but we’ll get that test this morning, so we’ll know more later today.

    I just really appreciate how awesome all of our Crawdads are, and how we support each other. You all are better friends than many in RL. Thank you for being awesome and constantly restoring my faith in humanity.

  38. helenk3 says:

    Lola I hope both you and your husband get rid of the virus. Praying for your good health. Love the picture. Bureaucrats can screw up a one car funeral. Most of them have the abilities of a rock lizard. Both you and your husband do more for people in one hour, then these fools do in a year.
    You are an important person to all of us here

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